@ParkheadParadise, I've seen you mention your DD before and am so very sorry 
. It also makes me furious. One of the biggest global killers of women - if not the biggest - is men. And still it's not being taken seriously, and can't be, if 'rough sex' is seen to be a mitigating factor in the courts of law of the developed world. In 2020. It's shameful.
I'm a victim of rape (violent, at age 15, by 2 men) and also a victim of stalking (aged 17, for two years, by an ex). So I can speak from both perspectives. I've heard it said stalking is the psychological equivalent of rape, but at least that horrific event was over relatively quickly. Stalking is invasive, terrifying, allows you no peace and no privacy, and leaves you in a state of at least low-level stress ALL the time. It's the most horrific form of torture. When it peaked, he waited at the top of my street with a broken bottle (I saw him from a distance and used a back entrance), he climbed up to the window of my bedroom and looked in on me (woke up with his ugly mug peering at me through glass from about 3 feet away) and at its worst, he waited for me outside my workplace in his car and mounted the pavement, trying to run me over. I was truly, truly terrified. I really thought the bastard would end up killing me.
The police did nothing (this was before the landmark civil prosecution case in which Dr Robert Fine had his student apprehended for stalking - first UK legal use of that precise word). It only stopped when my father visited his family, told them the extent of the problem and detailed what events had taken place, said he was deeply concerned that their son had serious psychological problems and begged them to seek help for him. They might have done that, but this was when it stopped. But he's done it to other women since.
Women are perpetually put in this kind of danger and seemingly no one cares. to all who have suffered this particularly insidious form of abuse.