Rape Statistics

[ClimbEveryLadder]

So a male 'friend' is insisting a friend of his who was found guilty of rape and sexual assault against more than one women was 'set up' and is innocent really.

So I'd really like some statistics readily to hand on estimated percentages

• rapes actually reported to the police.
• rapes reported actually prosecuted
• rapes where perpetrator found guilty

To try and highlight the actual percentage likelihood of his friend being wrongly convicted

The national statistics will prove nothing about an individual case.

The only facts that matter are those relating directly to this case.

@ClimbEveryLadder I'm so sorry this happened to you. I was sexually abused (including raped) as a child. Someone told me I had a responsibility to report it. I made it clear the only person who was responsible was him. I was very clear I wasn't going to report it, didn't want to put myself through it, and then about 5 years ago I started thinking about it. I did report it. Didn't think I ever would. I don't think anyone should pressurise anyone. It's such a personal difficult decision. They found other victims. There were 5 of us. He denied it (I think that's why I was thinking they didn't know each other; we didn't. We had a trial in July 2018 last year and there were 3 not guilty counts and a hung jury on the rest. We had a retrial (he got away with the 3 counts due to double jeopardy). There was a retrial January 2019 and he was found guilty on every count and got 16 years. We are all now in touch and have set up a website to help other survivors warriorwomen.org.uk/

That is an amazing achievement @toothfairy73, well done!

Its maybe worth pointing out that there are many people who struggle with the reality that someone who seems to be a good person in many areas of their life can be a very bad person in some other area. They can deal with people who are generally consistent, or where they can see that the seemingly good or bad qualities are due to some mitigating factor, or are superficial.

But what they can't really get their minds around is that someone who is largely a bad person can in fact have some real good qualities which are genuine, or that someone who is basically good can have some truly evil aspect to their character.

When they have a situation where they know a person who seems to mix both of these elements, they have to come down on one side or the other. Either what they saw that seemed good about the person was always untrue, or what seems bad is untrue.

I've come to the conclusion as I've aged that a lot more people than I suspected think this way.

@Summerhillsquare thank you. It took all 5 of us but not all us got justice. We are determined to use what we learnt to help others and make a difference. The first time we met we drank ALOT of Prosecco

toothfairy73 well done all of you, I'm in awe of women who manage to make their way through the process.

Goosefoot very well put & I agree

I knew my 'friends' friend, he very much wasn't evil in all aspects, and I think the chances of reoffending extremely low but I can't cope with the denial.

That's an amazing achievement by the five of you, toothfairy73. You must feel so proud of yourselves. Sad that you should have to, but even so.

Sep 16, 2019 - The first experience with sexual intercourse for more than 3 million U.S. women was forced in their early teens, according to a new study.

Wonder what the number is in the UK.

@ClimbEveryLadder that's the thing about sex offenders; they often don't appear to be evil. They look like you and me. They are charming. Manipulative. The man we put away was convicted of crimes over a 30 year period. There will be many more. People don't stop until they are stopped. Even now I'm sure the man that abused us thinks it has been a huge miscarriage of justice. I was there for the verdict (at the second trial) and sentencing. He just kept shaking his head. Even when the judge called him a serial predatory paedophile he was in complete denial, and I think that denial makes them even more dangerous as they will not take responsibility for their actions

@ClimbEveryLadder

I'm in awe of women who manage to make their way through the process.

it was incredibly hard but I had amazing support from Rape Crisis, the ISVA's are amazing and we took baby steps, one step at a time

@Prawnofthepatriarchy
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You must feel so proud of yourselves*.

I still can't believe that we finally did it. I have moments of feeling incredibly proud. My little me (if that makes sense) is proud. Especially when I remember seeing him for the first time at the verdict (I had been behind a screen before then). He stared up, and I just glared at him until he looked away. I did not take my eyes if him once. Every time he shook his head i nodded.

I've just seen this www.thecut.com/article/false-rape-accusations.html

I never felt like the administrators didn't believe me, I just felt they didn't care from link above

This simple powerful statement has moved me to tears, tears for that faculty member , for me and for everyone that's has been raped. For those that didn't get justic as well as for those that did see their attacker convicted as nothing undoes what they did.

Thank-you again especially toothfairy I'll be quoting a lot of those sources in some of my discussions going forward.

I'm also going to NC again. So when I don't comment again I haven't gone away I just don't want to leave too easy a trail.

Of course, good luck @ClimbEveryLadder. Sending you lots of love. If you ever feel you need some support there are excellent resources here:
warriorwomen.org.uk/useful-resources/

Take good care of you. Self care tips here:

warriorwomen.org.uk/self-care/

I really recommend the sexual violence helpline run by rape crisis. Open every day and I always felt better afterwards xx

Rape stats:

rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/about-sexual-violence/statistics-sexual-violence/