It also leave a doubt about where the boundary is when we have a perfectly excellent sex-based boundary we can all agree on.
This. I think there are stages of waking up to this for female people as you truly begin to explore the implications, and this represents a point on the journey. I'd been on FWR for some time before I realised, from patient explanation, why this kindness based approach to the original people the GRCs were designed for can no longer work. After all, who'd want to send poor little Jazz Jennings or someone as vulnerable as them to any male facility?
In part it's the natural protectiveness of a decent person who understands vulnerability. Women often have that in spades. They also understand exactly what the dangers from males are. Female socialisation is different to male socialisation: this is why gender stereotypes harm females.
However it has been proved beyond all doubt now that if any biological male is permitted to identify as a woman then it is impossible to gatekeep where the line is drawn. Males will force that as far as it will go, which is why we've reached the point of expecting that bearded, fully intact male presenting males can stroll into any female facility, say the magic words and no one will utter a peep. And males are actively exploiting this within the safety of the law, for example Karen White (who is as much a TW as anyone else is.)
If it's one, it's all. It's the end of any gatekeeping, female spaces are owned by any or all males. As we've seen, in effect, when it comes to practical implementation most places have surrendered and just made female spaces unisex. This is a massive disadvantage and inequality for females.
Also while many women feel more comfortable with fully transitioned transsexual people, after long discussion here including with transsexual MNetters, it became apparent that underneath this is still a belief that the primary judge of who owns spaces and who will set the boundaries is the person born male. The underlying entitlement and sexism is impossible to avoid. Connected to this: while many women may be able to use female spaces under these conditions, some women won't . That has to be the line. If any female person has lost all provision in order to give a male person additional choice and facilities to their existing provision, something has gone desperately wrong.
And there are circumstances and situations in which a significant number of female people can never be comfortable or able to use spaces that males are present in, regardless of the degree of cosmetic surgery, regardless of the gatekeeping, regardless of that male's chosen identity. That ends it. Those females cannot be excluded from any space or access to services to give males wider choice and entitlement. I bang on and on about this because it appals me that this agenda sees nothing wrong with this. If you have the naivety and privilege in your life that you have never known a female person who may be beaten up by the male in her life for traducing cultural boundaries, (and has in reality no access to equal justice, because of those boundaries and an inability to escape), or a mother desperately planning with the help of MN to disappear without warning from the man who tried to kill her last night, somehow taking three small children with her with only the clothes they stand up in, or a survivor of rape, or a female living with dementia or Autism... you don't realise the devastation you are wreaking on other females when you say 'But I don't mind....'
And then the final stage, the final step, is to suddenly realise - hang on a minute, why aren't people born female permitted to have a boundary about their biological reality, and have spaces male born don't feel entitled to take away from them? And an identity male born people don't feel entitled to re define over their heads to better suit male born people? And the right to meet, or associate, or have a sexuality or get undressed anywhere at all apart from any male person who insists on being present?
And then you reach the point of realising that for some people, kindness is just another word for oppression.