I post this aware that I might get a warning.
However!
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/nov/23/blind-date-jen-anna-glasses-fog-up
The woman, a lesbian, Anna (and the Guardian readership) did not reveal that Jen is a trans woman.
The whole thing is gaslighting.
And I may be deleted for that sentence.
There is a good thread on Twitter which I'll link.