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Inspiring women to show DD13?

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peachycore · 20/10/2019 09:53

Hello Smile
My DD13 is homeschooled due to bullying at old school - she is living quite a sad life at the moment (health issues and obsessed with celebrities, nothing to do) we have been fighting for a place at a special school (she has very high functioning ASD) and in two weeks we will get information etc.
She went through a poetry phase and discovered some wonderful women that were very brave (think Mary Shelley and her mum, Elizabeth Barrett Browning, Emily Dickinson) and learnt about them and read their poetry. She is now past this phase and appears to get worse and use every day. She has severe social anxiety, hates going outside and just wants to do her own thing.

Any inspiring women that I could show to her as role models? She loves learning about new people Smile

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peachycore · 20/10/2019 14:21

Thanks everyone for answers Smile

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Coyoacan · 20/10/2019 16:34

Constance Markievicz is definitely one of my favourites

One of mine too.

There is an autobiography of Emma Goldman that you can download from the internet.

Embarrassing, but can anyone remember the name of the 18th century woman who is was the precursor in computer science?

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 20/10/2019 16:53

Ada Lovelace?

Queenoftheashes · 20/10/2019 17:06

Simone Biles is inspirational and her floor routine exhilarating viewing

LetterFromLorah · 20/10/2019 17:55

Greta Thunberg? I believe she is also ASD.

QueenWhatevs · 20/10/2019 18:00

The film Official Secrets has just come out, it tells the story of a GCHQ agent Katherine Gun who leaked a 'dirty tricks' memo in the run up to the Iraq war. Fascinating and inspiring. It features Shami Chakrabarti who is very interesting in her own right.

Gingernaut · 20/10/2019 18:03

I wish I had half this woman's chutzpah and musical talent.

clairethewitch70 · 20/10/2019 18:05

My female inspiration is Olivia Durdin-Robertson. The founder of the original Goddess movement, the Fellowship of Isis of which I am a Priestess in training.

PerkingFaintly · 20/10/2019 18:44

Right this minute, Jane Ní Dhulchaointigh is my most inspiring woman, because I've just used up my first packet of Sugru.Grin

It is aMAZing stuff, and will change my life. So many things to fix, so little time!

Earlywalker · 20/10/2019 18:57

Sarah Parker Remond - london.ac.uk/news-and-opinion/leading-women/a-voice-freedom-life-sarah-parker-remond

PerkingFaintly · 20/10/2019 19:37

Thank you so much for that link, Earlywalker, I'm not sure I'd ever heard of Sarah Parker Remond. She's... wow!

AllTheNameAreTakenEvenThisOne · 20/10/2019 23:27

We've got this game based on inspiring women [[https://www.bookdepository.com/Wonder-Women-Isabel-Thomas/9781786272362 Wonder Woman Happy
Families]]

I know Happy Families is probably too young for a 14 year old! But the cards are a lovely thing and you can use it for lots of different games - seeing as she's home educated I thought it could be useful.

e.g. we sometimes use them for a quiz game when we're in the car. One person picks a card (or a few cards to make it harder) and reads the booklet section about them, then they put the booklet away and they get points for each fact they can remember about them (or know, even if it's not in the booklet).

WomanBornNotWorn · 25/10/2019 15:53

An inspiration

Inspiring women to show DD13?
GrumpyGran8 · 25/10/2019 17:16

Hidden Figures, both the film and the book, is an interesting insight into some of the women, especially black women, involved in Nasa in the early days. It focuses on the human 'computers' who did the computational mathematics around space flight.
The novel "the Calculating Stars" also deals with Nasa's 'human computers'. It's an SF story set in an alternate universe (in 1953 the earth is hit by a giant asteroid, changing history), but it covers real history - not just the earliest days of NASA, but also the many vital roles played by women pilots in WW2.
The heroine may appeal to your daughter. She is one such pilot, and there are thrilling descriptions of her flying planes; she also a top mathematician but suffers from horrendous anxiety despite her many acommplishments.

Rachelsfatarse · 25/10/2019 17:32

Beryl Burton, cyclist. If you can find the Maxine Peake radio play it would be worth a listen

yetanothernameforMN · 25/10/2019 17:45

Have you seen the film about the beginning of 2nd wave feminism - She's Beautiful When She's Angry?

It's on YouTube. I've just seen the 1st half- perhaps others can advise on age suitability as I haven't seen the whole thing yet- but It's a great film and they were definitely inspiring!

yetanothernameforMN · 25/10/2019 17:49

Here it is:

feelingverylazytoday · 25/10/2019 19:06

Boudicca
Florence Nightingale
Mary Seacole
George Elliot
Jane Austen
Violette Szabo
Odette Hallowes
Harriet Tubman
Billie Jean King
Martina Navratilova
Golda Meir
Marie Curie
Margaret Thatcher
Jane Goodall
Jane Tomlinson
Hedy Lamarr
Delia Derbyshire
Qiu Jin
Waris Diri

Just a few names, obviously there are many thousands more.

flintyminty · 25/10/2019 19:38

Good website with timeline for Women in Computing and STEM
www.computinghistory.org.uk/pages/45621/women-in-computing/

If DD is keen on computers then she could do more research on Ada Lovelace (same generation as Mary Shelley I think).

midcenturylegs · 25/10/2019 19:54

I think possibly at the moment it sounds like your DD needs nurturing until the right school comes up. Reading all of the (amazing) literature above might be too much. Sorry all (am writing as a mother of a child who had similar issues so speaking from a MH perspective) she is just a kid with what it sounds like a great Mum. I think fun stuff might be in order for the time being? Music - I love Sigrid for her no makeup no nonsense pop. Let her be a kid for a while longer. When she feels stronger then really encourage her to read all of the text above

midcenturylegs · 25/10/2019 20:00

Having said that, Maya Angelou is great for vulnerable girls of your daughter's age.

PerkingFaintly · 26/10/2019 19:08

midcenturylegs, you've prompted me to go back and re-watch Michelle Obama's eulogy for Maya Angelou, just for my own benefit.

But actually it might be spot on for your daughter too.

She taught us that we are each wonderfully made, intricately woven, and put on this Earth for a purpose far greater than we could ever imagine.

[...] her words lifted me right out of my own little head. Her message was very simple. She told us that our worth has nothing to do with what the world might say. Instead, she said, "Each of us comes from the creator trailing wisps of glory." She reminded us that we must each find our own voice, decide our own value, and then announce it to the world with all the pride and joy that is our birthright as members of the human race.

PerkingFaintly · 26/10/2019 19:09

Spot on for OP's DD, not midcenturylegs'!

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