TRAs have constantly failed or refused to define the word woman so I have decided to do so on their behalf. A TRA definition of a woman is 'anyone who performs feminine gender stereotypes'. That will exclude any transmen and all of you non binaries in denial about your trans status leaving womanhood to the deserving.
When explaining the conflict to newbies I will explain that one side thinks that women are adult human females the other side think women are people who perform feminine gender stereotypes.
If that is putting words in their mouth I'll happily change it when you provide another definition. In the meantime I hope it doesn't make you seem a few sandwiches short of a picnic (note to mods - a common term in English parlance and hopefully not worthy of a deletion).