Domestic violence

[Shortandcrazy]

I'm looking for some support and help as my ex partner is taking me to court and wants full custody or 50/50 shared care the least..he has filled in allegation forms against me saying my daughter is a risk from the hands of her mother but there is evidence- my ex partner had been violent to me in the past he strangled me but I didnt make a statement as didnt want to go all through court and he is the father of my child..I have lots of evidence to back me up..and he would write in emails to me recently saying he has got nothing bad to say about me ect..and that I'm a good mum in a txt message..I'm really concerend about his mental health as he seems unstable..but I dont know if his ok to have contact with my daughter unless it was supervised.. I'm really frightened and vulnerable to all.this going on..and my baby daughter is only 8months old..I cant seem to get a solicitor cost alot of money.

Sorry there is alot of evidence from me meant to say in that message..but he doesnt have any evidence

Sorry to hear this, have you tried calling www.womensaid.org.uk/ ?

No I've not called them will try and call them now thank you so much

You need legal advice, and ideally evidence such as a hospital or doctors report detailing your injuries, photos, a police report, or a witness statement.

You might get good advice if you ask Mumsnet to move this to Relationships.

As well as Womens Aid, visit Freedom Programme, you can take their training online.
The Freedom Programme
freedomprogramme.co.uk/index.php

Thank you inebriati..the police was called and the ambulance had came out and the ambulance service went to first response and Caffcass will be at the court wether they can get that evidence also I have emails him basically admitting he did it

There is also provision for legal aid in cases which involve domestic violence, so financial hardship may not be a barrier for you:

www.gov.uk/legal-aid/domestic-abuse-or-violence

Absolutely not an easy situation to be in. I wish you all the best.

Hi Shortandcrazy

So sorry you are going through this.

You can get free legal advice from Rights of Women as one of their services is about Family Law - see ]]rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law/]]

Did you get through to Women's Aid? I hope they were able to help. They also have a directory of local Refuges some of whom have specialist workers who can offer support. To find a service near you go to www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-abuse-directory/ and select your area.

This is a link to a page that explains about access to legal aid childlawadvice.org.uk/information-pages/legal-aid-if-you-have-been-a-victim-of-domestic-abuse-or-violence/

You could also see if there is a Law Centre in your area, and if they can help. You can find out if there is a Law Centre in your area by searching the data base (see right hand column) on this page www.lawcentres.org.uk/i-am-looking-for-advice

Hope all goes well.

(Did you see that Women's Aid has a Survivors Forum which you might find useful to be able to share with women who have experienced similar situations to yours survivorsforum.womensaid.org.uk/ )

Sorry clicky link for ROW rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-advice/family-law/