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"She is My Son: Afghanistan's Bacha Posh, When Girls Become Boys"

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AugustL · 06/10/2019 05:31

Documentary, which may be of interest:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=b1E9uWm9nJc

"She is My Son: Afghanistan's Bacha Posh, When Girls Become Boys"

Afghan "Bacha Posh". Girls forced to "be boys" or choose to "be boys", due to sexism and restrictions of culture/religion on girls.

"In patriarchal Afghanistan, women’s rights are severely restricted. Female family members are expected to stay at home and take care of the children. They have little access to education, and are discouraged from getting a job. It’s a society that condemns women who play sports, and even leaving the house without a male relative by her side can land a woman in hot water. To take part in some of the most mundane activities, women still often need permission from a male or to be supervised. This is why, in families where men are in short supply, parents sometimes appoint one of their daughters to play the male role.

The practice is called Bacha Posh, which literally means “dressed up as a boy”. Girls in this role wear boys’ clothes, have close-cropped hair and answer to a boy’s name in the street. They get the freedoms that men in Afghan society enjoy at the price of their true identity. As they grow up, however, most go back to behaving like women again: they get married and must comply with the traditional restrictions women face.

For girls who have tasted freedom while posing as boys, it is particularly difficult to readjust to the behaviour expected of Afghan women. For this reason, some girls decide against going back to following female rules, preferring to remain Bacha Posh instead. RT Doc met some of the Bacha Posh of Afghanistan, and they all had very different stories to tell. Amena’s parents decided that she would be the boy in the family. She doesn’t enjoy her status but has to help her father with his work. Fazilya has been raised as a boy since birth and knows no different, while Asiya consciously chose the male role to gain more freedom. To hear more of the stories Afghanistan’s pretend boys have to tell, watch the full documentary."

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AugustL · 06/10/2019 05:36

m.youtube.com/watch?v=b1E9uWm9nJc

I find it interesting how something so regressive, and which is in response to something so regressive, is very similar to what the Western left considers very progressive.

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Qcng · 06/10/2019 05:59

I've heard about this but don't know lots about it so thanks for sharing.

It's a bit unfair to compare Bacha Posh to trans"boys" in the west, because the reasons behind the two phenomena are very different.

Women in the west do face sexism, but are still liberated in the sense we can work/drive/leave the house alone etc.
A bit like comparing Thai Kathoey to transwoman in the west, the comparisons are fairly superficial.

But yeah, we certainly wouldn't call it "progressive" so why the double standards?

RadicalStitch · 06/10/2019 07:07

This book is excellent The Underground Girls Of Kabul: The Hidden Lives of Afghan Girls Disguised as Boys https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1844087751/ref=cmswwrcppapiii_xryMDb1DM7AE0

Angryresister · 06/10/2019 08:02

Interestingly I have heard that many of these girls become the activists for women’s rights later on in their lives.

Joisanofthedales · 06/10/2019 09:25

I've just bought the book. Thank you op for letting me know about these girls.

AugustL · 12/10/2019 19:54

Trans activists would probably use this to say "look even in Afghanistan they are more accepting of trans people than you'

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Cailleachian · 13/10/2019 20:11

The Breadwinner is a great childrens film about this. Well worth watching.

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