Never say No, to a guy who asks you to dance

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This lovely pamphlet was released by a church for their dance

Quite a few things are questionable but the most is saying “if a guy asks you to dance, don’t say no. He’s worked up the courage to ask, the least you can do is dance”

Lovely

See also

“Make sure you choose what you wear carefully. You don’t want to be asked to go home because you are making guys uncomfortable”

link

He’s worked up the courage to ask, the least you can do is dance

How about, if you've worked up the courage to tell him to bugger off, the least he can do is accept it gracefully?

I daren't click the link, it's too early in the morning for the rage-spike.

Yes, I spend all my time at church dances adjusting my behaviour so as not to make men uncomfortable. Oh, wait, no I don't.

(Definitely too early for a spike on blood-pressure.)

OP, I would contact the issuer of the pamphlet and tell them it’s completely unacceptable. Explain exactly why. Ask for it to be withdrawn. And point out it’s unchristian for men to trample women’s boundaries and make them uncomfortable and anxious.

It’s not my pamphlet

It’s one I found scrolling through fb

I went to a summer camp when I was a teen in the mid 90s. There was a dance every evening and you weren't allowed to refuse if someone asked. However, the dances alternated between girls asking and boys asking. No one complained but I hate the idea of my DD being put in this position.

Rape culture and victim blaming. Nice.
Be nice girls. Or it's your own fault.

I teach a partnered social dance.
When I first learned we were told never to say no to a dance (although anyone could do the asking, not just men) but a couple of decades later things have thankfully moved on and I sometimes get my class to practise saying ‘no thank you’ (no explanation required!) and ‘no worries’ as a response. Accepting a no graciously is a skill worth having!

I saw that pamphlet. Was it ever said where it originated. I saw a lot of posts saying it was a fake

Who goes to a church dance and why?

My high school tried this line on us in reference to an upcoming school dance, but phrased as simply "never say no to a man".

5 minutes and multiple outraged counterarguments from students later I think the teacher was too traumatized to even consider using the same phrasing again.

(Nowadays that would presumably earn you a trip to the head's office and possibly a suspension.)

I thought you were my mum!!!

My mum taught me this as a teen - so I never said no to a guy who asked me to dance. I never had a second dance either - I always said thank you and went back to my friends.

However, I then became the girl that every weirdo asked to dance and I never got asked by the good looking guys!!!

But it is weird to see it like you guys do to-day - back then, in the 80's, I thought it was good manners (but my friend had no such qualms and regularly told the guys to bugger off - and she ended up with all the hot boys!) - what does that teach us? Not sure, maybe that's why I am still such a pushover.

Who goes to a church dance and why?

Church goers who like dancing I imagine.

When we were taught social dancing in primary school this was the line taken, though it was boys choose/girls choose partners for alternate dances.

And we were about 9 at the time so still in the boys/girls eeewww phase in many cases. Still not sure it is a great idea though, the teachers could have got round that by allocating partners.