I no longer tell my child to be inclusive and kind

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Interesting blog. We should teach our children it is ok discriminatory in order to keep themselves safe.

www.scarymommy.com/dont-tell-child-to-be-inclusive-kind/

It should also mean that everyone is included

why should everyone be included all of the time? That's the exact problem.

No, there are plenty of situations where everyone shouldn't be included.

I mean that if inclusivity is a value to which the school supposedly adheres, why does it apply to some groups and not others? Why is trans status more important than religion?

(I would say why are boys more important than girls but we all know the answer to that.)

In the words of many a Murderino, ‘fuck politeness, apologise later’

Inclusion or exclusion are not moral virtues in and of themselves. They are just basically descriptions of geography. They both need context qualification terms to tell us whether they are being used in a positive or negative way.

This is the bloody problem with people being too sodding lazy to think, and using buzzwords instead of careful thought.

There's also the fact that what's considered rude is highly sex specific, and some either don't want to acknowledge that or are proud of their determination to hold women to a different and much higher standard.

Respect for others and listening to your instincts are not mutually exclusive

Indeed. I taught my dd to trust her instincts and move away from people who gave her a creepy feeling, but not to the point of being rude if they haven't actually done anything wrong. Trusting my instincts has stood me in good stead, but I have occasionally been wrong.

Never ever would I teach my children to be 'inclusive'. If they don't like someone, they can ignore them. If they feel uncomfortable they can say so. 'Inclusivity' is such creepy shit.

There were only six girls in my dd's class in primary school. One of the girls was particularly difficult. I am glad I taught my dd not to exclude her, as did all the other parents. And what she learnt there has stood her in good stead in her work environment.