Parenting a teen 'ally'.

[JellySlice]

Dd knows that I am GC. What she doesn't know is that she, too, is GC. I have heard her explain to her db why males and females do not compete in sport together. She is fully aware of misogynistic attitudes to women, and to the restrictive and unhealthy impositions of gender stereotypes.

Yet she also totally believes in TWAW, and everything that goes with it.

It's got to the point where I feel I'm just going to have to say "Yes, dear" to every Koolaid statement she makes. It doesn't matter how politely or neutrally I respond, if I say anything GC her emotions escalate.

Yet I know that "Yes, dear" gray-rocking will drive her nuts!

I do not know where to go with this.

Ask her
In what way are TW different from men?

Do you understand that female and male are biological terms? Not personality traits?

Do you understand that every human on the planet, including all of your friends, cousins, grandparents and neighbours, came out of an adult female human? Do you think there should be a word for these people, that describes these humans? How can you explain the facts of life without the words man and woman meaning what they're supposed to mean?

Or... Just eye roll and "yes dear" until she grows up !

OTOneH I cannot let misinformation slide past. I have younger dc. I also have to educate and protect dd.

OTOtherH currently I slip in GC attitudes, demonstrate politeness in disagreement, demonstrate self-respect and, I hope integrity. If I alienate dd by challenging her view too much, I risk her shutting down and rejecting everything GC.

Plus I think the cognitive dissonance is really distressing her. Or maybe I'm projecting.

You could encourage her to listen to that McKinnon strata podcast. She may be sad that the trauma from the terves put McKinnon off track from the Olympics, or maybe not...