When FtM surgery goes wrong - Scott trying to raise awareness.

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This is so upsetting. Don’t open if you’re not prepared for very distressing image and content. But people should know.

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I’m worried that my gender questioning stepdaughter is suffering from some kind of post trauma type thing, due to a combination of her little sister being life threateningly ill (cancer type illness), starting puberty and first experiences of sexual attention from men (plus a long term interest in comic book culture and a tendency towards social awkwardness).

Bloody hell, DuMonde. That fits my friend's (mid-transition) child to a tee, except it was her dad's life-threatening illness.

Feel free to get her to contact me via DM on here, Fern.
We’re trying to listen and delay, rather than affirm (following the online advice of therapists Lisa Marchiano and Sasha Ayad) but happy to be in touch with other parents, even if they are following the Mermaids-type approach. We all just want to support our kids, even if we have radically different ideas on how to do that.

I don't think her dad would come on here, DuMonde. He's my friend, not the child's mother - just my crap way of phrasing it, sorry. They're separated, certain amount of bad feeling over stepfather which I truly hope isn't a sign of anything else going on for the poor child. But thanks so much for the offer.

Read this, I just wrote this a couple of days ago

Well, feel free to let him know there is someone out there in a similar position - we could find a different way to make contact if he wanted to.
My husband is really struggling with it all so I have a little bit of insight into how hard this can be on dads and we’re a complicated blended family so some insight in that area too!

Scott's story is heartbreaking. But it's beyond me why there is anyone left who endorses this surgery for young people. You don't really have to be a genius to work out that major surgery such as this is going to result in physical and psychological damage and not solve the problems the person has.

That's not true. They don't tell you the complications they say, "No big deal." This surgery should be illegal.

Scott, did you mean to add a new link in that post or did you mean something linked further up the thread? Thanks.

Yes I was trying to send this link, it's about transitioning

thetransgendertruth.wixsite.com/mysite/post/what-the-physiologists-surgeons-and-physicians-don-t-tell-you-about-transitioning-genders

I'm so sorry, Scott. It's your point that PTSD plays a key role in so many people's desire to transition, perhaps to try to escape the memories by becoming a different person entirely, that's so distressing.

I wonder if the WHO reclassification as not being a mental health issue will one day be remembered as a dreadful mistake?

Scott, thank you for sharing your story - the books aimed at children about transitioning present it as simple as popping a pill, your story and trying to raise awareness show the truth.

What is your view on children given hormone blockers until they are old enough to make the decision to medically transition? This is the UKs current guidelines. Have you heard of any issues of people who have taken these and regretted it?

(Personally I'm concerned even the blockers are not tested on children, in terms of the effect on their mental development, fertility and ability to have sexual pleasure, and also lead them down a path which encourages full medical transition).

It's so hard for parents - they are often railroaded into going down a path of transition by 'experts' and woke teachers/social workers/health advisors. I hope the tide is turning.

I listened to the podcast and wanted to say thanks for speaking up for women’s sports and against paediatric transition, and for defending 4th Wave Now.

I think your point about transmen being transmen, not men and transwomen being transwomen not women and owning the difference as a positive thing, rather than denying it completely, is really key to everything - I only became active in the trans debate when I realised the people who say ‘transwomen ARE women’ are serious, up until that point I thought it was short cut for ‘transwomen are not women but life can be very hard for trans people so the decent thing to do is to act like they are women in a social setting’.

If your view was the prevailing one, we wouldn’t be in this current mess.

Regarding the PTSD thing - I wonder how many of the (many) US trans veterans saw active service/have trauma from participating in the military industry?
I personally have known several veterans both in the U.K. and US who have been so traumatised they have taken their own lives - one of them was very self aware and wrote movingly about ‘moral injury’, but still couldn’t find a way to heal his own - transition is a better coping mechanism than suicide, although presumably only effective in the short term?

www.democracynow.org/2014/9/29/soldiers_heart_remembering_jacob_george_afghan

Blockers make these kids sterile, no bio kids. No hormone blockers was a medical that they invented for profit

I think your point about transmen being transmen, not men and transwomen being transwomen not women and owning the difference as a positive thing, rather than denying it completely, is really key to everything

If your view was the prevailing one, we wouldn’t be in this current mess.

Spot on. True diversity.