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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Konnie Huq article

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Juells · 06/08/2019 10:08

Quick post before I have to fly out the door...
www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-49204146

I was struck by a couple of things in this article. One was the contrast between a children's book written by a woman, and one written by a man (DW, as discussed here recently). I doubt the subject of porn is touched on, in KH's book.

The second thing was that, when doing a programme about nerds when she had a breastfeeding baby, imagine what a powerful message would have been sent if she'd had a baby in a sling while doing it? Most women have a baby at some time in their lives, why the fuck are we so excluded when we do? I'm the opposite to an earth-mother, I didn't know what the hell to do with a baby when I had one, never thought babies had anything to do with me, still don't, but I can see how distanced I was when growing up from the idea that having babies and looking after them was in any way a worthwhile thing to do.

Arrrrgghhhhh my own feelings are so mixed up on the subject, but I do think more women should be shown in the media with babies strapped on.

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Juells · 07/08/2019 08:44

Basically you're saying don't take maternity leave, go back to work & take the baby with you?

No, that isn't what I'm saying. My post was a knee-jerk reaction to reading about expressing milk at 5 am then heading out for the day. TBH I wouldn't have done it when breastfeeding, but that led on to how the world is set up so unfairly. Women are penalised for having wombs, penalised for being the ones who get pregnant, penalised for having babies, which mustn't interfere with their careers, penalised because of male power...

I just have a grumbling sense of dissatisfaction. I know that, growing up, I associated having children with being a drudge, it coloured my view towards being a woman. So this is just a thought experiment, wondering if there's some way to show 'women with babies' as being complete human beings who take part in life, not a race apart.

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FWRLurker · 07/08/2019 09:56

It just sounds so horrendous to be expressing, I don't know how anyone does it. sad I remember the way the milk would flood in, with associated pain, if the baby made even a small wail in the night. I don't know how anyone could go a whole day without a baby there to relieve the pressure.

Huh? pressure doesn’t build up if you stay on a schedule. Roughly Just express as often as baby would be eating...

It’s really No Big Deal and much less disruptive (to my own concentration) than having the kid present/attached. And essential for many occupations.

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