Found this in a lesbian facebook forum

[chillz]

www.allure.com/story/guide-to-sex-with-trans-women-for-cis-women?fbclid=IwAR3ODpZ-vQMtwrH3uWwhry_GqAT-CUyYben322Yc7Ds__EOk5WfImtw_sTg

I really wish they'd stop going on about the smooth mouth feel of their flacid penises. It's really not the unique selling point they think it is....

"That’s why I’m here today: to help you unlearn our society’s nasty transphobia and teach you how to have fun with the trans women in your love life. It’s a noble endeavor, I know. So let’s chat about trans women, how our bodies work, what feels good for us, and what you should know before we go home together."

Yeah, no.

Instead let's chat about lesbians, how their sexual orientation and their consent and right to autonomy works, that women don't exist purely so that men can get their rocks off, and about how sex isn't all about you. And that nothing, really nothing is a bigger turn off than this kind of self centred, patronising, condescending wankery. Nothing. Not even your penis.

I really really want to see an article in GQ, Men’s Health, or the Advocate telling gay men about the mouth feel of a vulva and how best to tongue the clitoris. I want to read in that article about how gay men shouldn’t fear vaginal secretions but should learn to enjoy the taste and smell. The article, too, should make clear that it can longer for females to orgasm — but persistence is key! Stick with it, gay guys! Your transman will get there!

The article should be sure to tell gay men, though, that if they engage in PIV sex with a transman, they should be sure to have the birth control conversation. I doubt they’re accustomed to discussing potential child maintenance issues with sexual partners. But they too must live in this brave new world.

they should be sure to have the birth control conversation

As should those couples in the type of 'lesbian' relationships exhorted in Allure

“So I think a cis girl needs to know that how she talks about a trans girl's ding-dong could be more upsetting than if a cis guy were to say the same thing.”

That quote is from the allure article. I included it in my post earlier on this thread. I have just read this:

madamenoire.com/1080721/laverne-cox-black-cis-men-attracted-to-trans-women/

"Black cis women need to be having conversations with Black cis men about their attraction to us without shaming cis Black men. Because they are. They have been since the beginning of time. I’ve dated men in the past who’ve said, they would never tell a cis woman they date in the future that they dated a trans woman because they’ve been shamed before by cis women for being attracted to trans women."

I am seeing a bit of a pattern.