Today I learned that I don't understand the term "straight"

[Mandatorymongoose]

In response to the question "if you are non binary and only attracted to other non binary people, what is your sexuality?"
It was explained to me that straight does not mean as I always believed it to "attracted to people of the opposite sex" as implied by the term heterosexual but actually means attracted to people of the opposite binary gender. If you are attracted to people not of the opposite binary gender you are gay.
Which makes perfect sense given the erasure of Lesbianism and the insistence that "genital preferences" are nothing more than a fetish but I've honestly never heard it applied to heterosexuality before. It would be interesting to see how well straight men would accept this argument.

Strange

I’m well past the sell by date on this debate.

I grew using the term queer to mean odd, unusual etc. Then it was the generic term for someone who was gay. Then it was a non-pc term to use, and now it’s okay to use, but I believe has a slightly different meaning?

However, as I well above 30, i’m Not meant to understand these things (and actually don’t), although it’s the youngsters that all have the blue rinses nowadays, not us old cuddle duddies.

It's very simple. Just borrow your understanding from Hippy culture, where 'straight' just means the boring normals.

Because basically, that's what all the label junkies are running from with all their fancy badges. If you're a boring normal person, whoever you like to diddle with, or even if you can't be arsed with diddling in any form, you're straight.

Personally, my sexual proclivities are my own business, and in many ways I am fucking weird. But I am also quite happy to be seen as dull and boring by the 'Queer' crowd, so I would be 'straight'.

I don’t know what a boring normal is though, in this world.

Rosa, I know what you mean - it's like the understanding that Non Binary is rubbish because no one is a complete stereotype of gender.

So yes, with the caveat that every human is unique and normal is very much a relative term itself, I would say that most people on the planet are largely uninteresting to most of the other people outside their immediate acquaintance.

It's not a value judgement, it doesn't mean death is wished upon them. It just means that humans are numerous, have their own quirks, and are generally on a quest to find significance in a universe where in all probability they don't have any at all.

I'm likely the least encouraging pep talker ever, but I really, genuinely believe that each human life has inherent dignity, but is also really dull to the vast majority of the rest of humanity and that's ok.

oh, I can't be arsed
This!!!!