My nan used to say 'The more you do, the more he'll let you'
Smart woman! This is why I do little (kidding, kind of).
But seriously, not only do I dislike cleaning, I just don’t want to spend the little spare time I have not working to do it. The Roomba handles the floors, my husband does the toilets (always been the agreement!), and we hire a cleaner to do a “big clean” once a month. We are both quite clean and don’t like clutter or have much stuff laying around to gather dust so all that is really left between big cleans is the normal pick up after yourself and keep your habitat nice kind of things: wipe down the counters after you make a sandwich & load and unload the dishwasher kind of stuff, for which we both do. We both do laundry, take out the trash, feed and brush the cat, all those other things that need to be done. He also does the Costco run which is just the worst.
I have lived with a man before who was less egalitarian when it came to household work, he just didn’t “see” things the way I did. I think it helped that when I met my husband not only was he older, but he grew up with a single mom who expected him to pitch in just the same as his sister, and he had spent years on his own and in the military where there were expectations. Plus he is just not a slob. We have always dealt with kind of odd work schedules (with me typically having a lot more hours and late nights) and I have never had to come home from work late and be met with a mess.
I really don’t understand men who can’t pick up after themselves and don’t see taking care of their habitat as a necessity they too are responsible for. They don’t have to love doing it - I sure don’t - but it’s part of being an adult and being a respectful partner.