On sex games gone wrong: Standpoint mag

[WomanDaresTo]

Hello - thought you might like this long read piece by the excellent Louise Perry in Standpoint mag. She's covered what we've found on these (now 50) cases of men claiming "sex game gone wrong" in the death of a woman or girl at We Can't Consent To This. She's also spoken with legal experts on this like Susan Edwards, as well as the BDSM campaigners at The Spanner Trust.

standpointmag.co.uk/issues/may-2019/a-fifty-shades-of-grey-area-over-violent-sex/

And to all of you mumsnetters who helped me find these women's stories.

A great article, I know very little about this, until I read about the most recent cases posted on MN I hadn't read much on the 'sex gone wrong' defence. Awful stories but important to share and be made aware of these poor women and how they died.

I didn't like it. I read the 50 case stories on the We can't consent to this website. I feel sick and shaken.

You women are doing such an important and necessary thing. Thank you for bringing these horrific experiences to everyones attention. What the fuck is happening in mens heads. I'm struggling to cope with what I've just read.

barelove

It's a horrifying place we've found ourselves in. And if you read each news story on its own, it seems like a lurid and tragic event, rather than part of a pattern of men reaching for this claim when suspected of killing or injuring a woman.

There are many more cases of women being injured. This case from this week shows how the police and press can deal with these well - this is treated and reported as a very serious violent assault by an abusive man.
www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/news/liverpool-news/abuser-jailed-after-left-ex-16176337.amp

Thank you WomanDaresTo That was so kind of you to respond to my distress.

Like so many women, I've experienced my own trauma and as a way of getting on with life without being triggered all the time I've purposely stopped reading, watching or listening to any media news and I'm not on any social media sites. I know this violence is happening but reading the accounts like that just felt overwhelming. Which is what they should do, to everyone reading them.

It's good to be reminded that there are juries and judges who do not accept the fabricated defences of these men. And it's brilliant to know that there are strong amazing women like you who will not sit by and let these things happen without shouting about it.