Charlize Theron: my child who I thought was a boy...

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Charlize Theron: My child I thought was a boy is... a girl!
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...apparently because 'Until she looked at me when she was three years old and said: 'I am not a boy'

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It's bizarre to me that anyone could be so affirming to gender stereotyping as to deny the child of their actual sex, assuming what's reported is correct.

I just want my DD to be happy and confident. I don't want 'society' trans-ing her and I would appreciate support for how to deal with this. Equating it to role-playing a pony is fking insulting

You are doing the right thing. Maybe, when she’s an adult she will feel the same way and she can make her own decisions but at the moment ride with it. We went through this phase, short hair, male friends, football, boys clothes, etc. I never ever told my DD she could be a boy, but I told her she could like whatever she likes

She’s 13 now, has a mix of friends but still gels mostly with boys. She has grown her hair and wears girls but not girlie clothes. It would have been very easy to indulge her as a boy but we never did and she has moved on from that phase.

When I was a kid I would only wear what are considered to be boys clothes, had very short hair, played football and was generally rough and tough. I insisted I was a boy up to the age of about 11. Back then my mum viewed it as a bit embarrassing, just her odd daughter being a bit different. My dad was just pleased to have someone to go to the footy with. I wonder if some parents still feel like that, and so saying their kids are trans is a way for it to be less embarrassing.

I never grew out of it. I no longer insist I’m a boy but I have short hair, never wear dresses or makeup etc. Turns out I’m just a boring old lesbian. My mum still thinks I’m a bit of an embarrassment but at least she gets a bit of social capital out of having a lesbian daughter, now she’s stopped cringing so much that is.

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Like many on here who feel strongly about transing children I was that non conforming tomboy. I grew up years ago and was generally allowed to get on with it but there are certainly some things that would have made life better in my day. For example, my mates (the boys) all played football for the school. I was way better than them but had to play netball! They all went to Cubs then Scouts and were allowed to have proper adventures, I was stuck with Brownies and refused to go to Guides. I had to wear a swimming costume, which I hated, when I went to the local pool which was completely stupid as I had no boobs and I couldn't wear trousers for the first few years of school.

I believe girls are allowed to be the same as the boys in all those areas now, at least up to a certain age, and that would have been better for me.

I was however allowed to do the 'boyish' things I wanted most of the time. So went fishing and to football with my Father, made camps and had fun with my (boy) friends and never had a doll or toys that were remotely 'girlish'

It sounds like you are doing everything right, just keep going being proud of your daughter for who she is and don't give into any external pressure to force her into any box that she doesn't fit in. Kids only want to change gender when they are not able to be themselves in their born bodies.

I do think the real challenges start at about 10 or 11 but if the foundations are there she is likely to continue being a happy, confident girl for ever.

For the record I grew up to became a really boring adult. I'm straight, married with children and grandchildren. But I'm still likely to get very fiery if anyone suggests I'd look good in a dress or I should wear something pink, YUCK!!!!