Read every word. Well reasoned, well explained, and by a clearly nice, liberal, well intentioned person who has done their best to be understanding, supportive and inclusive. And realised they'd been suckered into a co dependent relationship with a bunch of abusive arses with a black pit of need that can never, never be filled, where their sole job was to be the scapegoat. Never right, always wrong, it's Cinderella syndrome. Run around hard enough trying to please your betters, trying to do right, trying to do enough, and maybe one day, just one day, we'll let you have a little bit of a reward.
Yeah women saw through that one over a century ago. This is why younger women need a community with older women who have done the domestic abuse relationships and have the t shirts, who know about narcissism, male violence, abusive personalities, about learning to have boundaries and enough self esteem and life experience to say back the hell off, you do not get to treat me this way. And no, I'm not interested in how my having boundaries makes you feel, that's your responsibility not mine.
Identity politics is academia approved ad hominem
Ain't that the truth!