19 yr old daughter against planned parenthood

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My daughter is rabidly against abortion and is coming out with some guff about the evil people who run PP denying ppl contraception to dbl the abortion rates. It's a Netflix documentary apparently. She wants to go get a IUD, so I said to book at pp, and she said shes never going there she wants to go to a gynaecologist. How do I refute this? I told her that so many people and orgs are gunning for Pp, but shes got it into her head that noones life is more important than even a 2 week old foetus. We are in the US. Feel like shes a Turkey voting for Christmas. I don't have time right now to look for proof if it exists that pp is not a secret satanic society as caring for another daughter with ongoing needs and working full time. Does anyone know any links that could be useful? Thanks

How old is she?

Tbh I doubt you'll be able to change her mind easily or quickly. She can book where she wants to get the IUD, I don't think it's a good idea to try to force her to go where you'd prefer.

She is an adult and is able to decide what she wants to do with her body. None of your business. I dont know what pp is though. As a catholic, abortion is against my religion and also my own personal beliefs. That is my choice. I dont judge others but i don't expect to be judged for my views either.

We live in a free country. You’re entitled to your opinion, and she is entitled to hers. If you want her to respect your opinion, then you need to respect hers too.

When I was 18, I was anti-abortion. I’m now 30, and I’m very pro-abortion. I was entitled to both opinions.

Yes abortion is not permitted for Catholics child abuse however

spottyswat unfortunately your dd has been sucked in. Hopefully as she matures and experiences life she'll realise nothing is black and white.
As a 14 year old I held the same views as your dd. I'm now completely pro choice.

I was also anti abortion at that age, it's not that that I object to, its that she believes planned parenthood is an evil organization plotting to increase abortion rates. Off to work now so can check If anyone knows about these allegations and the Netflix doc tomorrow

I would be encouraging her to develop her critical thinking skills instead of forming vehement views off the back of a Netflix documentary, and I'd tell her that.

There's also a documentary on Netflix about the Flat Earth Society. Have her watch it, ask her if she thinks the world is flat after. If she says no, ask her in what way the information in the two documentaries differ.

Well it's good that she isn't going to use PP. She'd be using resources that I'd rather go to people who need them. And yes, it's completely fine to be anti-abortion for yourself. It is not OK to try to ban abortions for others.

Blow her mind and tell her that the lowest abortion rates are in the countries with the most liberal abortion laws and the highest abortion rates are in the countries where abortion is illegal. If she' s capable of critical thinking. www.nbcnews.com/health/health-care/abortion-rates-go-down-when-countries-make-it-legal-report-n858476

Your daughter doesn't have to hold the same views as you do. And from what you've said it sounds like she feels very strongly and is very vocal about it, but this is normal at her age to be passionate about these sorts of things.

Also, for the record, I work in healthcare and from what I've read about pp I wouldn't want to go there either. Don't immediately dismiss your daughter's concerns just because you think it sounds daft. I'm not anti abortion, but I would be happy to see pp crumble and disappear. Their business practices are quite shocking when you start reading into it. I certainly wouldn't begrudge your daughter avoiding them and wanting to spend her money elsewhere. Why do you care where she chooses to get her contraception from anyway? It's not really your business, so long as she is being safe.

The last teen girl in the US I knew who started talking this way was very much trying to lay the groundwork for it being "impossible" for her to abort a pregnancy which she actually wanted (but which her parents vehemently objected to, and was with a terrible man who hurt her and the daughter she eventually had).

I'd be making sure that IUD was going in sooner, rather than later, and that it's not more like "I TOTALLY DEFINITELY had an IUD, mom, that's why we weren't using condoms, the failure rate isn't 0%, and you know how totally adamantly opposed to abortion I am."