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A trivial thread, for light relief. I wondered if anyone had been to see Home I'm Darling? **Spoiler Alert** Title edited by MNHQ

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DaedricLordSlayer · 22/03/2019 09:33

I've recently been to see it, and really enjoyed it, I thought the feminism portrayed was well done. It was also nice to be surrounded by so many women in there. I thought there must be other MNers who've been and I would love to go over others thoughts of the play?

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LassOfFyvie · 23/03/2019 13:06

I'm seeing it next month. I'll get back to you.

DolorestheNewt · 23/03/2019 14:15

Yes, I saw it, but I'm a bit concerned about posting spoilers here! If you can get MN to put SPOILERS or similar in the headline, I'll put what I thought? (Though I did think it was a bit thinner than I hoped, but to be fair I imagine there's a limit to what you can really explore in a couple of hours and still make the drama commercially watchable.)

Nuffaluff · 23/03/2019 14:19

Yes, I saw it! I had a day out in London on my own and saw it in the evening. DH bought me a ticket.
I really enjoyed myself, it was a good play, good script and acting - the set was amazing and I liked the costumes.
I enjoyed it but I wasn’t blown away.
SPOILER ALERT- I wasn’t sure about the ending when they dance out of the door together. I wondered if they would end up being happy with their new arrangement or not.

DolorestheNewt · 23/03/2019 14:26

Nuffaluff costumes were fab. So New Look. And KP is wonderful. You cannot take your eyes off her on the stage. A joy to watch.

howmanybiscuits · 23/03/2019 14:31

Has anyone been watching The Marvellous Mrs Maisel? I've been enjoying the feminist subtext in that - especially the end of the second season (no spoilers!).

DaedricLordSlayer · 23/03/2019 14:57

ahh yes difficult to talk about without spoilers. I'll see if MNHQ will edit the title.

I didn't have a clue what it was about, as DH surprised me by booking it, he just said it's about 50s type housewife and it's sort of feminist. I didn't look at reviews or anything. DH enjoyed it and said it's was quite thought provoking. I found it a little less so(probably after spending so much time on here Grin ) The the set was brilliant.

I were sat next to women who was there on her own, I really wanted to talk to her but struggled to find the right words to open a conversation, she was very smiley though.

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DaedricLordSlayer · 23/03/2019 14:58

howmanybiscuits will I be able to watch it on catch up?

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Nuffaluff · 23/03/2019 15:19

Ha daedric were you sitting next to me? I was in the stalls a couple of Saturdays ago. I was very smiley. So smiley that I made eye contact with Katherine Parkinson at the start and I think I threw her off track for a second. I must have looked like a grinning idiot.
I couldn’t help it - I was just so excited to be at the theatre dahling.

howmanybiscuits · 23/03/2019 15:20

DaedricLordSlayer yes, you can see both seasons on Amazon.

howmanybiscuits · 23/03/2019 15:21

They're making season 3 now I think.

DaedricLordSlayer · 23/03/2019 15:42

Nuffaluff no sorry it wasn't you then, we were upper circle at the front the other night.

howmanybiscuits thanks I'll look that up Smile

hopefully I'll get the title changed and we can discuss the play.

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DaedricLordSlayer · 23/03/2019 22:57

I found the dynamic intresting as it was her pushing the fantasy.

I could also relate to the rebellion against her mother's feminism, not to the same extent but I definatly would roll my eyes at feminism and sort to distance myself from it, whilst still acknowledging the struggles fought in the past. But after spending years on here reading this board and the relationship board 'I get' it now.

there was a part where I did cringe a little and as it went a little preachy but it wasn't so bad.

I would happily watch it again.

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DolorestheNewt · 24/03/2019 10:26

Ha, edited title! Brilliant!

Yes, I did see it. As someone said ^^, I wasn't blown away, though it was a few weeks ago and I've slightly forgotten a lot of it now. I seem to remember that I interpreted the end as a perfectly reasonable compromise, acceptance of the fact that we can't reinvent the past, which is entirely fair enough, and I liked the inclusion, via the husband's part, of the idea that men might have moved on more than they realise, and that "being looked after" actually runs the risk of disadvantaging them in the workplace as they're seen as infantilised, particularly if they have a female boss.

I interpreted the mother's set piece, ending with something like "it's not what we marched for", as much more the frustrated ambition of a mother who can't deal with her daughter living with different decisions to hers, rather than a, y'know, brave battle cry to be applauded, so I found it a bit mispitched and was completely unreasonably annoyed at the applause as I thought it was not merited. But that's my reading, it doesn't have to be someone else's.

That's all I can remember, really. Set and costumes were great, and KP is fantastic on stage. But generally, I thought it was thinner than the reviews suggested.

DaedricLordSlayer · 24/03/2019 11:19

DolorestheNewt yes its was the battle cry that had me cringing.

at times I thought KP character needed some seroius therapy as her obbession/fetish was way out of control.

I didn't get the bit were she stood up to offer herself(?) to her friends H.

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DolorestheNewt · 24/03/2019 11:31

I can't remember, but I think the point about her fetish was probably that it was masking identity problems caused by her rejection of the immersive feminism she was raised in, combined with the implication that her mother's approval was so conditional on KP making choices of which she, the mother, would approve. Hence obsessive.
I can't remember what I thought about the scene with her friend's H, annoyingly. I know I did have an opinion at the time. He'd been sacked for sexual harassment, hadn't he? Was she testing out to see how she herself felt if she took her obsession to the point where she didn't resist the sexual advances of an obvious predator? And then, presumably, realised that even if you try to make yourself fit an older model, the world has moved on too far to be able to do that? I honestly can't remember.

DolorestheNewt · 24/03/2019 11:34

I'm glad I'm not alone in disliking the mother's set piece, by the way! Nothing like sitting in an entire theatre full of applauding women to derail confidence in your own judgement!

IrenetheQuaint · 24/03/2019 11:35

Yes I really enjoyed it! Will post more later.

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