should I complain about the way this therapist approached me on tinder

[misseightyeight]

Hi all,

Not sure if I'm being precious, or if this is legitimately not ok. Opinions please. I matched with this guy on tinder: his full name and occupation are on there: CBT therapist with NHS. He asked me if I wanted to play a game of questions, I asked what that was, and he said: do you like (among other things) having your hair pulled?

I was like wtf, that's so disrespectful of you to ask that, and blocked him. I do however have screenshots of the convo, and I found him on linkedin. I am thinking about making a complaint, because this could put women he talks to like that off going to a therapist. Surely by anouncing publically that he's an NHS therapist, he is representing them?

However, I am not sure if I am massively overreacting, as he is not my therapist (thank god).

Side note: online dating sucks.

no ur being over the top.

He did nothing illegal and nothing that would suggest he would approach a client like that.

Seriously? I can't believe people spend their actual free time getting worked up about stuff like this, enough to complain?

FYI he may have used facebook to join Tinder & that can share your information from one to the other.

I had photos of me in my work uniform nhs too

Two issues there
1- the fact he has stated his job title within the NHS, which might go against the NHS rules
2- the fact he is a counsellor who is keen on kinky sex

1- might get him in trouble but wouod really want to report someone you’ve exchange a few message with in Tinder for breaching the NHS rules?? Would you do that if he was airing ideas about Britain first or Communists etc?

2- counsellors are allowed to want kinky sex. There is nothing wrong or illegal wth that. And the fact they have that profession doesn’t mean they aren’t allowed to enjoy that sort if sex. You have never met that guy in a professional capacity, clearly didn’t mean to do so either so I’m struggling to see the issue there.

For me, it seems more that you ahve associated a profession with being ‘a good guy that clearly will not do ‘dirty’ stuff such as kink’. Which is quit’s unfair tbh.