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"Shag, Marry or Behead" - 3 mobile

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Jeanhatchet · 14/02/2019 06:57

The 3 mobile network are laughing at domestic homicide in this tweet. In many of the women killed as a result of intimate partner violence blunt force trauma to or being stabbed in the head is a feature.

The most worrying thing is .... how did this marketing meeting go? What views were expressed about killing women? How that was funny and would sell more contracts and phones? Imagine those men who sanctioned this and how common their views are that it never registered as a marketing disaster?

twitter.com/threeuk/status/1095740892919541761?s=21

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Ereshkigal · 14/02/2019 12:24

It doesn't need to be "literal" to be inappropriate.

Ereshkigal · 14/02/2019 12:24

Trust me, they knew exactly what they were doing with this.

Lolkittens5 · 14/02/2019 12:26

😂

It doesn’t need to be appropriate to be a joke.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/02/2019 12:27

Yes, we know it's supposed to be a joke.Hmm

But many women have a very good sense of humour, including knowing when something really isn't very funny.

Lolkittens5 · 14/02/2019 12:29

right so is your sense of humour the standard that is set by society?

If you get offended by something is everyone else not allowed to see/hear it?

Oxytocindeficient · 14/02/2019 12:34

If you get offended by something is everyone else not allowed to see/hear it?

I guess that will depend on who else is disgusted and if it impacts the business negatively, won’t it? We are free to state our opinion and discuss it here, on a feminist board.

Ereshkigal · 14/02/2019 12:35

What's this hilarious "modern twist" that you mentioned? Henry VIII was a misogynistic abusive man (if more of a product of the times he lived in) and so are many modern men. Male violence against women is still very much a thing. Male contempt for women is still very much a thing.

You sound like the women who thought Dapper Laughs was funny.

MargueritaPink · 14/02/2019 12:35

If you get offended by something is everyone else not allowed to see/hear it?

Nobody is saying that. I think it is a stupid, puerile , misogynistic advert which isn't funny. I'm a 3 customer and I don't like it and I'm free to tell 3 I will be moving back to EE because of it.

placemats · 14/02/2019 12:36

Brexit walks into a bar.

The bartender asks, 'why the long farce?'

That's a joke. Some people may well be offended by it.

It takes intelligence to recognise a joke from an offensive comment. I don't believe for one moment that anyone would think that Bernard Manning was a comedian.

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Jeanhatchet · 14/02/2019 12:45

Men love to defend things that lead to the harm of women as "just a laugh innit?"

Over the decades women have learned to sniff out these derailing tactics.

We don't have to find jokes about the violence you visit upon us funny because you say it is funny.

Thanks to the blokes for dropping by with their "no sense of humour" dismissal. Now go and tell each other your rape jokes. Or don't. But we see you.

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RockyFlintstone · 14/02/2019 12:48

No snog marry avoid and tinder is the twist and is obviously not literal.

Yes, this. And Henry VIII is obviously supposed to be an ironic choice for Valentines.

I don't think it's particularly clever or funny (and tbh I'm more surprised that they have used the word 'shag' in this sort of marketing campaign) but it wouldn't even occur to me to be offended by this.

StopMakingAFoolOutofMe · 14/02/2019 12:48

Why are you assuming thst everyone who comments on this post saying that they find it funny is male?

RockyFlintstone · 14/02/2019 12:51

Thanks to the blokes for dropping by with their "no sense of humour" dismissal.

Why would you assume that anyone who disagrees with you on this is a man, and not just a woman who sees things differently to you on this particular issue? Confused

placemats · 14/02/2019 13:01

I cannot understand why females would find this funny, hilarious or a joke.

Seriously, talk to me about why you find this funny, hilarious or a joke.

I used to go to a brilliant hairdresser who cut my hair the way I wanted to and did so with expertise and advice on the upkeep. She was a professional in my opinion and highly skilled.

She was stabbed on a road outside her house 35 times by her ex, who dragged her out of her home - she screamed to her neighbours to please protect the children, which they did. He then proceeded to almost severe her head before the police intervened. He stood up proud and although covered in blood, yelled 'YES!'

Lolkittens5 · 14/02/2019 13:05

I don’t find it funny but I can recognise the intent of the advert as a joke.

Lolkittens5 · 14/02/2019 13:07

@placemats sorry I fail to see the relevance...

I attended the Manchester bombing and there were many horrible jokes made about that.

I didn’t and don’t care and would never have assumed the people making the jokes were doing it at the expense of the men, women and children who died or got injured.

placemats · 14/02/2019 13:08

Please explain how you recognise the intent as a joke.

placemats · 14/02/2019 13:10

Please explain how you recognise this as a joke.

Is there a difference between horrible jokes and a joke?

I didn’t and don’t care and would never have assumed the people making the jokes were doing it at the expense of the men, women and children who died or got injured.

I would assume they were absolute shits of the highest order and should be avoided at all costs.

placemats · 14/02/2019 13:11

I don't get an email with the @.

Waste of your passive aggressiveness.

ErrolTheDragon · 14/02/2019 13:12
  • right so is your sense of humour the standard that is set by society?

If you get offended by something is everyone else not allowed to see/hear it?*

No. Each of us has our own standards which, in the case of advertising material, may inform whether or not we want to give a business our custom.

Free speech works both ways ... we have the right to object to material making light of violence against women.

Lolkittens5 · 14/02/2019 13:15

Some jokes are offensive doesn’t make them not jokes.

Some people don’t ‘get’ jokes doesn’t make it not a joke.

placemats · 14/02/2019 13:17

Some jokes are offensive doesn’t make them not jokes. Some people don’t ‘get’ jokes doesn’t make it not a joke.

Thank you for that extensive explanation.

MargueritaPink · 14/02/2019 13:19

I think it’s a very lazy argument to explain why domestic violence happens and just perpuates the stereotype of feminists lacking a sense of humour

The point being made is not that adverts like this cause domestic violence. Nobody has said that. The point is this attitude trivialises domestic violence - that domestic violence is a bit of a giggle - it's not like real violence.

I am not a feminist yet I can see this and I don't find this advert funny.

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ErrolTheDragon · 14/02/2019 13:21

Oh ffs. We know it's meant to be a joke.

Being a joke isn't an acceptable excuse for nastiness. 'Just banter' often really isn't ok for those who are its targets.

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