Another school treats girls with contempt

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I'm just so livid. Another little girl humiliated by bring refused permission to leave class to go to toilet. I'm speechless really.

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It's curious to me how safeguarding is used as the excuse to stop the girl going to the toilet. Surely if she didn't return after a short while, then the search party can be sent out - but to restrict movement before that happens seems more like coercive control. I know some girls use going to the toilet as an excuse to skive but the teachers should be able to discern surely. And to make the girl show a toilet pass is just more discrimination and public humiliation - look my periods are so heavy I need a special pass. Idiots.

I recall long ago at my girl's high school how a male geography teacher used to delight in humiliating girls on their period, by preventing them going to the toilet plus making fun of any of them in distress or who had blood stains on their skirts. Seems like not much has changed....

I didn't start my period until I was13 years old and in Secondary School, (11-16 years). This was in 1960 and we wore the pads/belt.
The pads were called 'jam rags' by the boys and some boys tried to get the spare pad out of our satchels. We were never told we couldn't go the the toilet though if we needed to.

Being a girl once you start to menstruate changes everything. My school was good though if you had a bad period pain, you could go to the 'sickroom'.

I think maybe she got it worse because she was year 7 and they haven't quite got to grips with her as an individual (e.g. that she wasn't trying it on, and yes, it does happen because I did it) Must have been really upsetting, poor little thing. The teacher should have let her go.

Maybe one day the period pants will get so affordable that girls can wear them every day, would stop the pressure. Mum could maybe invest (if she can afford it) in a pair now, the child should not be missing school just because she's on her period, that's not good.

"“It is regrettable that this has happened and that this young girl has felt humiliated and also that this article may portray the school in a negative way when we are trying to do good work in this area.”"

Women have been menstruating since the dawn of humanity.

Its not some new and trendy cause are something.

School are bastards that teacher is a bastard.

This is not the first story like this.

Seems that in 2018 male is still default and girls who can't pretend they fit that mould are, essentially, not welcome. The school will make things as difficult as possible. This is basic sex discrimination and its fucking horrifying.

Nothing, that quote really made me cross. The implication that they are upset about the damage to the school's public image.
I mean, if you don't want to look bad then don't act like arseholes in the first place! You don't get to treat girls badly and then moan because you get shown up by it

After several complaints made to the secondary school by the outraged parent on her daughter's behalf, she has now been given a toilet pass.

Bloody hell - several complaints to get a toilet pass?

Why on earth wasn't it issued immediately? Blatant misogyny - totally refusing to treat this girl as a human.

This happened twice to this girl in this school. Now the school is sorry because the story has been picked up by the press. If they were really sorry they would have stopped it happening a second time.

Surely by 2019 teachers should be aware that humiliating students is out of order and any teacher humiliating girls in this way is demonstrating a complete lack of any kind of insight or human decency. It doesn't take a genius to work out that a young girl repeatedly asking to leave the room may be on her period.

The school is worried that it makes them look bad. They are right to be worried. It does make them look bad. Deservedly.

This thing, where people forget that women and girls have different needs to men and boys, but that those needs are just as real is the patriarchy in action.

The poor girl. She must be mortified. I’m raging about the school acting miffed about their public image! Ffs! The only thing that would be coming out of my mouth as a spokesperson/head of that school is ‘we are so sorry’ and ‘it wont ever happen again’. And the period shaming toilet pass? Not a fucking solution! What’s about all the other girls?! Ffs.

This is definitely not ok. What I will say is this. Lots of schools I have worked in have a no toilet policy because of vandalism, truanting and hiding in the toilets to smoke or vape. In other words, the few students spoiling it for the many. As a professional , I use my discretion. Teachers know the kids who rarely ask so it must be a genuine case and I always let the girls go just in case! If they ask every week I question it. Nine times out of ten, I'm right and I have the respect of my students. Worth noting that a lot of the girls get their parents to write them a note saying that they have their period so they don't have to explain in front of the lads. Sounds as if the teacher in question didn't really have any common sense. If he was just a bully boy then I hope that he never has a daughter!

Poor girl - I vividly remember this happening to me and being really upset and that wasn't even at a mixed school. When you're first getting periods it's so difficult to know timings and you're far more likely to have flooding that requires immediate action.

As parents we are expected to trust teachers and support them in maintaining behaviour, which the vast majority of parents do, but in return it's not out of the ordinary to expect teachers to use common sense and be considerate to young girls.

Girasole that's a lot of work - 1 letter per month by the parents for a girls entire secondary education and possibly some of primary.

It's good there's an option but FFS teh fact that girls have periods is hardly news schools should be able to deal with it.

This bit from the school also infuriated me "It is regrettable that this has happened and that this young girl has felt humiliated"

Note they are sad she FELT humiliated ie it's about her emotions possibel hysteria / over-reaction. They do not believe that what happened WAS humiliating simply that she FELT that way.

Typicaly mely mouthed non apology bullshit.

Those FUCKERS.

This is misogyny, what they did to this girl. And I get they get all about girls in other countries not being able to go to schol because of period management. OH NO they'd say that's different. Really. How different?

Imagine your parents writing the teacher a note saying that you have a period and another child looks at your daybook?
Schools are cruel enough as it is, parents shouldn’t have to do this. No wonder girls miss school on their periods!

Forcing someone to sit in their own bodily waste is a human rights issue.
It was a human rights issue when the police were doing it to women in police cells, and its a human rights issue when its a male teacher doing to to a child.

I have to wonder about the motives of the people who do it.

I don't actually know what to say.

These policies are ridiculous. Surely teachers are able to use their discretion and common sense.

No child should be made to go through this. It's embarrassing enough being a teen without going through that every month.