So can anyone help with links for me?
Have been checking through primary policies, both the academy group ones and individual school. They conflate gender and sex somewhat, this feels 'fluffy'. They clearly name sexist language and discrimination also. They say children and teachers undertake 'stonewall training'. I'm not completely sure what this entails, I had a look at stonewall of course, and plenty is fine- the poster about selling love no matter if it's mum &dad or mum &mum etc. But of course other parts are not ok, cis definitions and the claim that sex is observed at birth at so on.
A few points - my children are young, and have multiple disabilities that may make them more vulnerable to sex role stereotypes, to trans pressure and to simply not understanding a lot of the bs that's about currently (we still have major issues that toddler boys go into girls toilets with their mums, and one of my girls won't use toilets at school at all and may never if a boy suddenly starts using them), they also still muddle he &she and may for the rest of their lives according to salt and will I fuck put up with them being told that's trans phobic. I haven't yet looked into curriculum in detail in terms of sex education, boundaries, etc etc but will start at our next reviews. I also know I am thinking about situations that may never occurr, but even if it's discussed at school I want to be prepared to challenge staff if the stone wall training is 'this boy is now a girl so suck it up'. My children are considerably more vulnerable than most, and thankfully I've found the senco very pro helping them voice their boundaries (and they have implemented a say no to unwanted touch program from me pushing), but I don't want to find our efforts within the plans from reviews dismantled by rhetoric in class or the playground.
I like to be informed, but this is 'triggering' for want of a better word and I'm over loaded with the stress of managing my PTSD, my disabilities and my childrens' multiple disabilities and all the fighting that entails already so I am asking if anyone can link resources for how they address this with primary schools? Or experiences of how stonewall training effected their primary kids- I'm guessing older ones.
My kids school policies on disabilities are incredible, and the teachers are very inclusive. I'm pretty sure I can guess which teachers would be GC, but I suspect there are plenty who are so keen to be inclusive they might not have realised the implications. Several are very young, by far a strength when it comes to awareness and understanding of disabilities, but perhaps makes it less likely they've faced as much misogyny as those older and so perhaps they might not have 'peak transed' as of yet. Not knocking them, I don't think I considered this much until I birthed girls, despite living with the sexual abuse that happened to me because of my sex. I feel like my girls have overwhelming challenges facing them both with misogyny and disablism and I guess I feel pressure to 'get this right' without damaging any of the really great relationships I have with the staff who do so much to help my girls with the challenges their disabilities throw up for them. Add to that some staff, governors, volunteers are parents of my kids friends, and due to my girls challenges making friends because of said disabilities I would hate to disrupt these. I'm not looking to cause a big fuss or anything I just want to be very informed prior so that I can make maximum impact on thinking if anything comes up when looking into how stonewall training impacts what's taught in Kay stage 2. Anyone's experience of this would be appreciated also.
Tia