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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Men who abuse their positions of authority to abuse women and girls

34 replies

OlennasWimple · 15/12/2018 23:49

Just recently...

A prison officer was sentenced to four year in jail for sexual relationships with and sexual abuse of female inmates

A police officer was jailed for 25 years for a string of offences, including grooming and raping a 13 year old girl that he met when he attended the house where she lived with her mother.

A police officer was jailed for 18 months after pursuing a sexual relationship with a vulnerable woman (and also harassing his ex)

A prison officer is in court facing allegations of sexual relationships with female inmates and sexual assault

But, proving that there's nothing new in the above case...

In October, a former police officer was sent to prison for four years, nine months for blackmailing a woman into having sex with him in order for her to escape paying a fine that she couldn't afford - this happened in 1978 and has been described as "Britain's oldest cold case"

These men are supposed to protect the most vulnerable in society, not prey on them Sad

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Deliriumoftheendless · 16/12/2018 08:58

No probs TeeJay. It’s early and we’re all knackered by this point. :-)

LangCleg · 16/12/2018 10:15

All of the above is why safeguarding matters and anyone or any ideology that seeks to undermine it should be vehemently opposed.

MyBreadIsEggy · 16/12/2018 10:26

I think it’s a genuine personality trait that a lot of predators have: work to get yourself into a position of power, giving you easy access to potential victims.
I was abused by a teacher for a year when I was 15. Creepy bastard wasn’t violent or anything - more the kind who makes you believe he has romantic feelings for you and you need him. I was perfect bait for that particular brand of creep.
He just disappeared from school one day without a word. That’s when the other girls started coming out of the woodwork, with very similar stories to mine.
The worst part is, nothing was ever done about out. From what I can piece together from talking to another ex-teacher of mine (amazing guy who actually got me through my gcse’s while unbeknownst to him o was being abused by his colleague), was that our headmistress told him to disappear quietly and he’d face no repurcussions! So it not just men - she’s just as bad as him Angry

QuentinWinters · 17/12/2018 08:16

our headmistress told him to disappear quietly and he’d face no repurcussions!

I think this is quite common. It came out that the club that hired the sports coach that abused me knew there were rumours about him but "needs must". This was in the 90s. I really hope times have changed.

MyBreadIsEggy · 17/12/2018 08:44

Quentin my experiences were 2009/2010 - so not even that long ago.
If I remember correctly, the law which make it illegal for a teacher to have sexual relationships with students under 18 was passed in 2002? So that and the associated teacher safeguarding training would still have been pretty fresh in the minds of my abuser and his enabler Angry

HestiaParthenos · 17/12/2018 10:59

Just as there are examples of male teachers taking advantage of pupils, there have also been a number of cases where female teachers have had inappropriate relationships with students.

All the cases known to me where female teachers had inappropriate relationships with students, there was no threat or violence involved, and the boys were past puberty. A bit of a difference, there.

With regard to male primary school teachers, I'm not saying we can't have them, but there must be very clear boundaries.
And there needs to be a woman in a position of authority in the school whom children know to have authority over, or at the very least the power to veto male teachers.

We can't completely prevent adults preying on teens who can be lured in with the promise of a romantic relationship, but we can make damn sure that no blackmailing can take place.

Not giving any man or all-male group the power to ruin a girl's or woman's future is the way to do that.

Changing society's views on the importance of keeping children safe is also desirable, but that's something that can happen only slowly.

For immediate improvement, removing or closely supervising the people who commit more than 90% of such crimes, namely, men, is the easiest way.

HestiaParthenos · 17/12/2018 11:19

I think it’s a genuine personality trait that a lot of predators have: work to get yourself into a position of power, giving you easy access to potential victims.

Certainly.

What people who claim that a man wouldn't choose a career just to get to rape women or abuse children don't understand is that sexual violence is about power.

Being in a position of authority appeals to predators, they enjoy it even before they can start abusing their authority, so it is not exactly a sacrifice for them.

I think that's why we get so many priests who sexually abuse children. Religion appeals to those types because it is one of the last places in a democratic state where you can wield authority without being questioned in any way, where you can even say completely nonsensical things and have people respect what you say ...

Um, well, that and transgenderism, I suppose. Confused

MyBreadIsEggy · 17/12/2018 12:41

Hestia
It makes me feel sick.
I was a vulnerable teenager in a very difficult emotional place, my world view clouded by eating disorders and self harm - I was perfect paedophile bait, and he sniffed me out a mile away.
When other girls came forward too, they were all similar to me: emotionally fragile, some in the care system, one had recently lost a parent etc.
It was a pretty rough school in an absolutely dire area, and he was quite “posh” in comparison. There’s no way he’d have chosen to work there for any reason other than it being a goldmine of a victim pool Hmm

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