Hello all,
Some of you may recall I posted (different username) a few months ago to ask for ideas for a new surname. I wanted a surname that was not my husband's and not my fathers as it had become increasingly important to me to be named as 'myself', not as an appendage or member of some other male's family (preparing to be rained on with boulders and pitchforks from folks who find my personal feeling this insulting - this isn't talking to you!).
So, I thought and thought, chose a name, and I been and gone and done it today! I'd love to let you know what it is (it was inspired by one of your replies). It took a lot of discussion with husband who found that he wasn't the easy-going liberal new male that he prides himself on being, so it took a bit of letting him 'grieve' (as he put it) before I jumped name. He recognised that to give me more personal power he needed to cede some of his, but man, that did not come easy. (Surprised me a bit as he spends absolutely ages on women's right stuff - guess it all comes out when they have to give up some of their own entitlement).
So, thank you very much all for your time and ideas back then. Much appreciated.
Mini second request of you if you would: can I please have suggestions on how to style out telling people (particularly professionally). I'd much rather not get into a 'no I'm not divorced, no it's not my maiden name, I made it up to break free of the patriarchy' discussion. I also don't want to lie and imply it's a maiden or family name as that's not my bag either. I want to be able to graciously and non defensively simply give the information and find a way of closing the discussion without seeming snippy or leaving people feeling annoyed. Any ideas? So far I've got:
- The HMRC were drawing in for the overpayments.
- MY tax evasion is catching up with me
- I'm in witness protection
- I used to work in a drug cartel and I name change every fifth year since I got out of the slammer.
Anything an improvement on that, much appreciated.