Theybies?

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Sorry if there's already been a thread, literally just seen this myself

Theybies?

Do children really not have a clue about gender till 4 then suddenly at 4 they know??

I don't understand the world right now!

So I guess mine were 'theybies', even though everso briefly

I guess there is a medical need to know about the new human in the room perhaps why it became a thing

But you're right it's usually very obvious from genitalia

On day 2 I noticed they were slipping up (I was still doing my best to be polite and go along with it) and by day 3 they were referring to her as "little miss"

That gives me hope.

Demanding of people that they use neutral pronouns for everyone whose gender identity they can't know will probably end the idiocy in all but the most stubborn.

Can I just ask, as you are a midwife, why on earth any MW would feel it necessary to tell parents the sex of their own baby?

Why on earth not? I was really looking forward to being told as soon as possible. I could have found out from my amniocentesis test but chose not to know until the actual birth.

I had an elective caeserean and I can still remember the surgeon saying "it's a boy!"

scooping up the baby, welcoming the baby

I welcomed my son. I was very happy to know he was my son- not "the baby"

I am just saying how precious it was to have those private family moments of discovery without the involvement of anyone else at that point, and that meeting the babies, was the most intense bit and then discovering the sex for ourselves was something the MW left to us which was lovely.

Yes, they probably as medics need to confirm the sex for formal documentation and so on, but I think it's nice to leave parents with their birth and baby where possible. I found her very unobtrusive and respectful.

I didn't want to know until the birth either,but could have done at various points.

But yes, it wasn't relative to the theybies' thing, was just wondering is all

@ChristmasSprite we never tell the parents, but I find lot of parents are convinced we are going to make an announcement "it's a !" So we do get a lot of requests not to say anything. In a few cases (such as this one) it goes a bit further though, in that the parents don't even really want us to refer to the sex. Which is quite frankly a bit nuts.

Hell, why don’t we let 4-year-olds smoke and get tattoos if they want to?

@PheonixBuchana thank you for that update. I was beginning g to think I was alone in this! Clearly I'm not and I'm pleased to hear that isn't medical practice to do so.

I wonder whether it's the stupid job directors do of birth dramas!