There were a couple of threads earlier in the year about facilitated men which I will link to once I’ve got this thread up and running. I found them very helpful in understanding why I was so frustrated and feeling like I wasn’t the only one stuck in my own life.
I’ve had enough facilitating and I want to do my own thing which is proving very difficult due to lack of available childcare, lack of flexible childcare, little additional support and lack of jobs that pay enough to cover the costs of going to work and the costs and inconvenience of both parents being out working.
My dh is very supportive and does not expect to be facilitated, though he thinks it’s daft me going out to work in a job I don’t want to do to earn money to cover the costs of the job that I don’t really want to do, that has no prospects and that impacts on everyone else.
I’ve tried working from home doing craft and I’ve tried setting up my own business which hasn’t worked out really. I haven’t tried volunteering yet or retraining or just getting any old job and seeing what happens. My confidence is down the drain and I feel very aware of not being someone’s first choice in any kind of work scenario.
I’m interested in this as a feminist, thoughtful issue rather than a knee jerk, aibu, get a job you lazy sahm freeloader because, as plenty of other women seemed to feel on the original threads, I am in this position due to sexism in the workplace. I’m now stuck here in a stereotyped sahm role with a husband who earns well and I feel like I’m supposed to be massively grateful I don’t need to work and all I want to do is throw things and weep for all my lost promise.
I’ll link to the facilitated man threads...