Guardian publishes “trans widow” letter

[speakingwoman]

I have updated the main thread but thought the fact of publication merited its own thread.

“I admire the wife staying with her transitioning husband. Five years ago mine announced he had “gender issues” and our marriage fell apart. Sadly I felt the change was too huge for me to accommodate our son has struggled hugely. We are tired of the “victory narratives” of self-expression and bravery about those transitioning .I have great empathy for my ex but those absent in the story also suffer, and often in silence”
Name and address withheld.

And this was in the Guardian? How balanced of them to report the other side.

The tide must be turning if the Guardian is publishing this!

I predict a ticking-off for the Letters page editor.

I'm sure they've published this type of letter before, showing some really narcissistic behaviour.
The comments were mainly in support of the wife.
There are still sane people out there.

It's still very sympathetic to the transitioner though. Feeling empathy for them and respect for women that stay with them.

As I said in the Transwidows thread I don't admire or not admire women that feel they have to stay with these men, I just feel desperately sorry for them that for whatever reason, they feel they can't escape.

And I don't have empathy for the men who abandon their marriage vows to be their "authentic selves".

The emotions expressed in the letter feel a result of female socialisation to me. I don't think the Guardian would publish a letter from an angry wife.