(I've name changed because i'm trying to keep things separated).
My FB comments keep getting deleted. Well, it's the second time now, but the first time was in part of a discussion. I'm not personally attacking anybody, I'm studying psychology and my language is very deliberately academic. I try to back things up or tell people where info can be found (or to reply if they want more). I always try to write in a way that is true, yet careful not to be deliberately - or unintentionally - upsetting. I get that some people see any whiff of not being fully on board with self-ID as transphobic though.
What really gets me is not that people disagree. It's the deletions. Especially when I've seen other worse things said with no reaction. I'm up for debate, but it's impossible when everything is removed. And in the first discussion, where people were trying to suss out whether to call me transphobic or not (because my language was pretty careful), I was also blocked from the page. They deleted my comments, not the ones tagging me and calling me a terf, just mine. I ended up changing my name on FB because I couldn't get in touch with the page admins after being blocked and don't want 'terf' next to my real name, for obvious reasons, especially given what I'm studying. They finally 'realised' I was a terf when I said I didn't think lesbians should called bigots for not wanting to have sex with lady cock... That got deleted too of course.
I'm also very careful where I post. So these deletions have been on pages that I imagined were ok. So the first was on a page about educating girls about their developing bodies and their periods, including a kind of wholesome celebrations of the menstrual cycle! I mean, TRAs would even see that as exclusionary! The second is someone who worked in the field of gender, worked with women prostitutes, works currently with extremely vulnerable people (actually vulnerable, not self-identified as vulnerable) and does outstandingly amazing work in empowering them in sustainable ways. She's also a brilliant thinker.
I thought that we were - slowly - getting somewhere. When these people shut down discussion about women's rights, the road ahead seems too long.
I need some cheering up... It's just me and my keyboard. I've been following from afar (I'm abroad) and I do comment sometimes on these boards. It's only the past month I've really been talking on FB. I'm not on Twitter - that place is for the big kids!