Feeling scared

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Why do I feel so scared to comment on a comment that WPUK and FiLiA are a transphobic hate group? :(

I have but thinking about deleting it again.

It's fucking shit.

You know why.
It's because if you deny that you saw Goody Proctor dancing with the Devil, you will be the next one to be accused of witchcraft.

It's only words on a screen though, and the more you do it the braver you will get.

Sadly I can't do it.

It's on someones wall who runs their own business. She asked for any info on what's going on in the UK regarding feminist action. I did say it was mostly around the GRA . She hearted the WPUK link. A few days later a bloke has given the 'heads up'.

I don't want to turn her feed into a shit storm.

I've copied what I wrote to my notes should I need to comment further.

Mind you I don't want her to appear transphobic.

You could contact her privately to go into more detail.

Yes I'll probably do that.

If there's one thing this debacle has done it's to turn me into a very critical thinker.

Agree with PP.
I'd contact her privately & say that you're doing that because you didn't want to put her in the middle of a potential public shitstorm.

It is scary. I think it’s all getting very sinister and you never know what watch list you might end up on. As William Burroughs said, “A paranoid is someone who knows a little of what’s going on”.

But then Boris Pasternak said, “To live life is not to cross a field.”

I also get discouraged because I think, what’s the point? Maybe I don’t move in the right circles, but so many women seem so anti-feminist and just ignore or laugh at the issues/concerns. I think, why should I bother putting myself in the firing line for you? And when some rights are won, they just take them for granted. Whenever any woman tells me she ain’t a feminist, I say okay, which rights that feminists fought for would you like to give up?’ Their only answer is a dirty look.

I like quotes, as you may have guessed.

It's because if you deny that you saw Goody Proctor dancing with the Devil, you will be the next one to be accused of witchcraft.

Oh God, it's exactly like that, isn't it?

Exactly. I feel silenced by speaking out.

I suspect she'd get it as she hates gender stereotyping etc, and I keep suspecting she's been the victim of a sexual assault given her rage against Kav and being very into the metoo movement.

My reply included reference to being a lesbian is seen as transphobic.

Wondering if to play the innocent card - hi! Wow, nothing I read on their site seemed transphobic to me, why do you say this?

Or

Just leave his comment hanging as no one has liked or commented on it. (Yet)

I really want to post the behold a man has entered meme...

Leave the comment hanging, ignore him. They hate that. Save your energy for better things.

Yes I'm leaving it.

Felt horribly angry while doing the shopping and then felt a bit silly for saying I felt scared - but then I realised how the fuck would a vulnerable woman on a mental health ward feel or in a rape crisis centre.

So a rang a friend and nothing I said shocked her (apart from that everything I was saying was transphobic) - very much well duh yes of course, but as she's not on social media or follows much news she hadn't a clue what's been going on.

I know what you mean. I wrote to the Guide Association and spent a sleepless night before cc’ing my dd’s guide leader. Haven’t heard back but felt I would regret it if I didn’t speak out. I have since had several real life conversations which have given me hope.