Just been told off by DM for being a feminist!

[DontLickTheCat]

Just been chatting to my DM about my DBro getting a new tumble drier for his birthday. Apparently my SIL said that she feels bad that my DBro's bday present is mostly for her. I told my DM that I thought that was a bit offensive that she thinks the washing is her responsibility when DBro has 4 fully functioning limbs and works just as much as SIL etc.
DM has just gone mad at me! Apparently, I'm 'such a feminist' and 'nobody likes those men haters'!

WTAF!! I managed to keep myself measured but I told her in no uncertain terms that as a woman and a mother of two DD, I would never, ever apologise for standing up for women's rights and if she didn't like it then tough!

She put the phone down on me! Twat!

My mother's the same. Tells me off for not making the husband's tea. Fuck off he's home before me

She's from a world where the woman stays home and doesn't work though. She can't wrap her head around me wanting to work and can't grasp why I can't still run the house myself when my husband is a fully functional adult who is perfectly capable of chucking a hoover about. Keeps telling me about little jobs in post offices that would be ideal for me. Blows my mind man

My mother is like that too...she's a product of the 1950's and would rush home for 4pm every day to make my step-Dad's pot of tea, seeing as he was apparently incapable of making it for himself.

We like you just fine.

My parents, way back in the 60s onwards both worked; laundry and shopping were dads allotted share of the housework. I don't think they thought about feminism, just simple fairness.

I think it's quite painful for my mum to hear me talk about feminism. She really agrees with me but it shows up starkly the yoke she's had around her neck her whole life - the opportunities she missed out on as a young woman and the treatment she's put up with from my dad

"Man haters", though.

My Mum died last year, in her early 80s. Daughter of a coal miner who then married a coal miner, she lived a crappy life as a housewife - much of it in poverty - bringing up 3 children in a two up, two down house in what ought to have made her say and believe the same things as the OP's mum.

Not fucking likely! My mother was feisty, opinionated and brought me up to believe I could do and be whatever I wanted if I put my mind to it. She encouraged me not to have children unless I really, really was convinced I wanted to (I wasn't, so didn't) and made all the decisions in their house. She'd have laughed to very scorn anyone suggesting that women ought to be in thrall to men.

Sadly my mum had a professional career but comes out with gems like "behind every great man is a great woman" serves The Men first at meals, gives prepubescent boys more food than teenaged girls, and paid me to cook my dad's tea from age 11 if she was going to be late home without considering that he might be able to do it...

On the other hand a neighbor in her 90s who was in her teens in Nazi Germany and was denied her wish to train as a teacher because her parents accepted the message that women should be housewives and mothers, and only ever had part time low skilled jobs, was the most vocal feminst I've known in recent years.