Old fashioned feminist desires

[smellycoat]

I want to buy very comfortable, loose, cotton knickers that I can tumble dry.
I am a farmer, and nearly 60, and sometimes I wet myself when lifting stuff ;
So PLEASE can anyone recommend the knicker supplier I desire?

My sister buys pure cotton, high waisted knickers from eBay - not sure who, but a search might find them. Otherwise Bonds are good, if pricey.
www.ebay.co.uk/itm/BONDS-WOMENS-LADIES-COTTONTAILS-COTTON-UNDERWEAR-UNDIES-BRIEFS-2-4-6-Pack/331798904747?hash=item4d40c17fab:m:myFseUMQHrS7X1Z4bvOooxQ&var=540898729968&_trkparms=gclientid%3D22RpJqisxagwN4YaFk5mYlsWYUQC60zpZ8ZzrAtk4f8tsCOj15Q8ox9VF-jJg45t&_trksid=p2489528.m4335.l8656

As a fellow hay hauler, I feel for you.

Sloggi basic big knickers. Or any supermarket own brand multi pack.

uk.sloggi.com/women/knickers-panties/hipster-mini

I'm a bit taken aback at the waste of electricity to tumble dry knickers. You must have access to outdoors and a washing line. Even in winter I let underwear dry on a clothes horse.

LassWiADelicateAir you might be more comfortable on a green discussion board. This is the feminist discussion board and it's very much against the spirit of the place to try and shame another poster into doing more traditional (and time consuming)housework

Why not use Tenas or washable pads instead? Must be a haddock to change knickers when you're wearing boots and heavy outdoor gear as well.

Sorry, stupid autocorrect! A hassle, not a haddock!

Whatever you get don't forget rule number one of knicker buying... size up!

LassWiADelicateAir you might be more comfortable on a green discussion board.

This is the feminist discussion board and it's very much against the spirit of the place to try and shame another poster into doing more traditional (and time consuming)housework

What a ridiculous comment. Putting your own knickers on a washing line or a clothes isn't exactly arduous. Tumble driers use a vast amount of electricity.

Lass you really would be happier in the Green Party board where you can berate women who step out of line as much as you like, but this is not the place. OP is a farmer, she works quite hard enough without hanging out her knickers.

I will check these out. Thank you fellow hay hauler.

I do dry things outside as a rule, but the kitchen gets very cluttered sometimes with the airer. If wet clothes get out of hand - Its into the drier they go. Sorry World!

I did not know sloggi did any other knickers than those rather clingy ones. I shall check them out too.

Mumsnet proving worthy.

M and S do big pure cotton knickers. Just buy a size larger if you want them looser for comfort.
You could also try absorbent pads, pelvic floor exercises, or surgery for the stress incontinence problem.

Its OK - I am very practical - and not ashamed. She has a point, we women are practical, and know the truth - we do have to save the world - so greenness is cool!
But thank you, I feel protected by you.

I think I should go to the Dr., but I resist it - all this talk about mesh implants etc. has possibly had a sumliminal? sp. effect.

BABCOCK!!! Surgery is a bad word... I would rather wet myself...

Sorry, I mean Babdoc.

Bonds - £30 for 2

M&S. Yes Babdoc - That does the ticket. Thanks Babdoc.

Surgery? I totally understand.
As a first resort, rather than take the medical route,I would suggest you take a look at articles written by Christine Kent at her Whole Woman website.
Explains the anatomy from a female perspective, usefulness or not of kegels etc.

It worked for me, quite a revelation really.
Didn't buy the book though, there was enough to think about on the website.

Clicky link
www.wholewoman.com

I'm not against surgical intervention but the ideas by Christine Kent help to seek out a bit more knowledge our female bodies.
As we are all aware here, surgery and many other irreversible interventions are not a perfect science.

Do Kegel exercises, and see your GP - it may be low estrogen incontinence. You won't need surgery for that, just HRT.

I think I need to explain...the whole woman website is very American centric. I'm not trying to promote the products.
but if you go to the blog section, it has articles by Christine, (who is a nurse) that help to explain the issues of female posture.

smellycoat ask your GP for a referral to a gyne physiotherapist - you may have to fight but it's worth it. I should have been offered that initially after a posterior birth but was sent down the surgery route right up to the crunch point of signing forms. The surgeon said that if it didn't go smoothly I may have to self-catheterise for an indeterminate amount of time. I pointed out that that was bloody unacceptable as I'm a keen outdoor swimmer and there aren't always facilities, let alone hygienic facilities.

He laughed.

I came away and googled furiously. Found, guess what, women talking to each other about how much mesh had hurt them. I talked to a pelvic physio online - Gussie Grips (who is both hilarious and kind), and to the women who later started the Sling The Mesh campaign. I marched back to my GP and demanded a referral to physiotherapy instead. And the physio was so lovely and effective I sent her a big bunch of flowers at the end of the treatment.

I leak a tiny bit now, a number of years on, because I've put on weight and have allergies that mean I sneeze a lot. But washable pads take care of it in the main, and if I'm doing high impact sport I just pop my Mooncup in, it's enough to support me.

Phew. That was a big post just to say yes, your instincts are right, but there is a way forward.

Silent
Good for you, your gut instinct told you otherwise.
Given the problems some women have had with the mesh, there is nothing wrong with adopting a less invasive approach in the first instance.

Don't know where you live OP but there may be a continence service run by your local NHS trust. And you may be able to self refer and not go through your GP.