Does this make you cringe?

[littlemisscomper]

It's making me feel sick, but I don't really know why. I suppose if her husband made the exact same upload saying the same things about her it wouldn't be so bad. Maybe...

Yes, this kind of thing is VERY common in evangelical Christian circles. A lot of it would actually be good if it was presented as what husbands and wives should do for each other but in fact there is more often than not an emphasis on wives pleasing their husbands.

In our church it is very balanced. Yes, these are the things you can do in servitude to your husband, but your husband should also love and serve you. Men, these are the things you can do to love and cherish and serve your wife.

Perhaps she is just giving her perspective as a wife and feels a husband would be better suited to give advice on husbandry.

Servitude.

Ffs.

Yes servitude to each other. I think a lot of couples do this regardless of their religious beliefs. Making someone dinner, cleaning the house, maintaining the other persons car, just making them a cup of tea or giving them a lift somewhere. I don't think it's a bad thing, it's supposed to be recipricol and an expression of love. It's just trying to support and meet the needs of someone that you love, and I'll emphasise again that it should go both ways.

I do those things for my husband and he does them for me, but I wouldn’t call it servitude because that suggests an imbalance of power - serving someone (root meaning from ‘servus’ meaning ‘slave’ just jumps out at me). I’d call it kindness.

I don't think the power is imbalanced if each is serving the other.

If you don't like my terminology that's totally fine though, you can use alternative words. To me it would only be negative in the context of it being one way (as you say slave-like), but servitude and enslavement conjure up two different images to me. Whichever terminology you're comfortable with, my point is that it's just a way to express love and kindness in a practical sense.