Used to be a libfem. I thought it was ludicrous that rapists would put on a dress just to get closer to vulnerable women in order to rape.
I used to say that feminism must also include men and it was our duty as libfems to help vulnerable men.
I thought sex work could be liberating for women if only women had better workers rights.
Then one day while on everyday feminism, I saw a transwoman called Riley J Dennis talking in a video, saying that genitals are a social construct. In the comments, to clarify my sex "I'm a woman with a uterus" and several people were disgusted and called me a terf and disgusting transphobe. I was deeply upset I had done something to offend. After all, I was a libfem and my feminism included transwomen and men. I was also deeply confused as to why on earth mentioning my uterus was transphobic.
Later, on Facebook I was discussing a news article in which a transwoman had been transferred to a womens prison. This person was a convicted rapist. Again, this was in conflict with my libfem ideals. I should be supporting the minority here. Except this minority happened to have raped a woman while male and was now among very vulnerable women in close quarters.
I actually lost sleep and cried about this. Because in my heart, I knew I couldn't be a feminist if I didn't support transwomen.
But something didn't sit right with me. My uterus is not a social construct. I knew I couldn't simply identify my way out of all the sexual assaults and rapes I had gone through, just by saying I was a man. And yet men were identifying their way out of being a convicted rapist and a danger to women, just by saying so.
Then I thought about what I had heard lesbians saying about being called transphobes for not being willing to sleep with transwomen, on account they still had their penises. It all sounded very rapey and scary to me. But again, I couldn't be a libfem and have these dangerous and bigoted thoughts.
I was called a terf again on a thread for asking questions like "should rapists be permitted into female prisons?"
"What is a woman?"
Someone told me I was a dirty radical feminist and a Nazi and I should be punched like a Nazi.
I suffered a PTSD relapse. I was banned from Twitter and Facebook. I had no idea what radical feminism was. So I looked into it.
Radical feminism seeks to liberate female humans from oppression by the removal of the harmful gender stereotypes that hurt us. It's for women and girls. It is not for men (though men would benefit). Radical feminism is for liberal feminists that have started asking questions. Its for women who have started to recognise and do something about their own internalised misogyny.
Radical feminism isn't the "fun" kind of feminism. It's fucking hard. It's a struggle. People will hate you for asking questions. Indeed, people do hate me.
I am a radical feminist. My feminism is for women and girls.