Transwomen are a vulnerable oppressed minority
So you say, Fee. But some of the claims made by transwomen or on their behalf are just not true. In the UK TW are less likely to be murdered than women or other males, for example. I wouldn't deny that they are vulnerable and oppressed but not any more than women, who are at greater risk of DV and the sex pay gap, to name but two aspects of women's oppression.
What very much affects how you deal with being a TW is how much you like being the centre of attention. Trans is definitely extremely fashionable - and very public. If you're a narcissist or an exhibitionist the world's your lobster, as the recent example of Jess Bradley illustrates. Transactivism offers some individuals what looks like an unrivalled opportunity to big yourself up or display your paraphilias to Joe Public while pouring misogyny on women from a great height.
If you're shy and retiring it must be much harder, as very few TW pass so people are bound to clock you. I guess you just keep your head down and go about your business.
"...and women of all backgrounds should work with one another for support.
They should indeed. But transwomen are male and not included in any description of the word "woman", which means "adult human female".