Am I a gender abolitionist?

[RepeatAfterUs]

Hi I'm a long time lurker.

Ive been thinking a while-what is the actual point of gender? It is only beneficial to those in power. No one complies fully with gender - it's like a set of rules saying "you have a penis/vulva so this is how you must behave". How backwards!

So I get that some people experience what would probably be better termed sex dysphoria and wish to "change" their sex (in so far as that is possible).

Surely tho many of us GC women could be said to have gender dysphoria. I don't like many aspects of the gender society has imposed on me as a female although I accept that as a person in my 40s I've received a lot of conditioning that would be hard to undo.

I just don't understand trans gender. I understand trans sexual but we are told transgender people aren't necessarily suffering with GD nor do they wish to change their genitals. So when those people say they feel like a woman they're saying they feel like the gender that is imposed upon women. Which is not an actual woman but a stereotype of one. Which many many women don't actually want anything to do with and the last thing we need is for it to be pandered to.

Yarnbabe Sounds exactly like my lightbulb moment.

I've been woefully ignorant until fairly recently, thinking that just getting on with life was what transpeople wanted, because that's what the transpeople in MY life want. This board has truly opened my eyes to the more sinister aspect that the fetishists want to impose on us all, Truetrans and Women.

My point, which I believe I've totally lost, was that I confirm spectacularly in some ways, and utterly miss the feminine in others.

This is me too - I have been knitting/crocheting/sewing for longer than I can remember (I don't actually remember learning!), yet I'm also perfectly capable of servicing a motorbike, and do all the household DIY.

I have long hair, but live in jeans and t-shirt (albeit women's both, because I have a body that mens stuff wouldn't fit).

I love my kids to death, have all the snuggles, but then happy send them off to nursery so I can do my day job programming computers.

For every one 'feminine' thing about me, I can show you a 'masculine' one - and my DP is the same.

Which is why gender is bunkem. If someone could prove to me even a bias, I might change my mind, but how can anyone do that when we're all raised from birth in a patriarchal society?