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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

It's all so depressing isn't it?

29 replies

Giggage · 08/07/2018 13:48

I've been reading these threads over a few years now.

Initially I was skeptical but having seen the way things actually are, everyday, I've found myself not only agreeing with you all on a lot of subjects but also finding it all very depressing.

Everyday sexism, trans debates and their actions, the constant struggle for lesbians and now for women just to be called women.
Women treated differently if in any place,a car, on transport on their own compared to how they are treated when with men in the same situations.

Even noticing that basic consideration to lone women living on their own is non existent. Where as if there was or appeared to be a man living there, either on their own or with that same woman, there are no issues. I have seen this with my own eyes time and time again, not just when I was on my own, but with other women who were or are living alone. Now I am seeing someone, the attitude towards me has changed again from outright hostile to not as much, although still very different to when I had a man living with me.

Most times it's nothing short of bullying, intimidation and threats in all situations.

The more I read, the more I see every single day.

I have been trying to find women only places in my area as mentioned in another thread but there are none. It's a large city for crying out loud!

The only woman only gym is extortionate £100+ a month and other gym offer only rooms with limited equipment or are only 1 hour sessions or just too far away.

I've tried mixed gyms but after several uncomfortable encounters in no less than 4 separate gyms I've given up.

I'm probably not making myself clear, or will be told I'm being paranoid (I know I'm not though) or ridiculous, but I thought if anyone knew what I'm trying to say it would be someone on here.

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HaveIDoneSomethingSilly · 08/07/2018 19:21

Yes very depressing. Found myself kicked out of a support group for women with autism on FB as a trans poster posted about the Pride protest using the T word ( sorry not sure if that’s allowed now) . I messaged the admin to say that was a slur word. After going off to google it she said it was a description not a slur. I let it go and didn’t comment but liked a post which also said that word was a slur. I think she probably saw me as a trouble maker, although this was my first interaction with the group so no history there. The discussion was all the usual non fact based arguments, ‘lady brain’, ‘trans women are women’ repeated over and over, nobody engaging with any facts presented. This is a support group for a group of vulnerable women ffs. It was quite a shock to realise I had been kicked out for simply liking a post objecting to the use of that word and my autism means that I do struggle with that sort of thing.

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 08/07/2018 22:56

That's totally fucking outrageous, Silly. Flowers Great username though.

Wanderabout · 08/07/2018 23:00

It's shite. But it's been cracking around the edges for a while and now it's starting to implode.

Things have shifted hugely in the past year, more so in the past 6 months. The genie is not going back in the bottle now.

Things fall apart, the centre can not hold.

Ereshkigal · 08/07/2018 23:05

Once you see it you can't unsee it, but I'm glad that my eyes are open. I don't want to live in a fool's paradise.

This. I'd rather know.

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