It's all so complicated. I know it's hard to get a simple point across.
My background is that I only know one trans woman and to be honest she is great and has become a friend to women. But that's because of her. Her specific character. I think of her as a woman but I absolutely know she isn't one despite her having removed her male genitals. I'm happy to share a room, etc with her but that doesn't mean I'm happy for the decision to be taken from me wrt other trans women.
I am also a mother and l also work parttime with children who are vulnerable and I notice that "ordinary" reasons for vulnerability in girls (poverty, family, undiagnosed SN) seem to be neglected in comparison with "being trans"
I'm very concerned about the influence of the charity Mermaids. It's wildly inappropriate for a mother who has to justify an act illegal in this country to have any influence, no matter how well intentioned she is (my best guess is that she acted as she did out of sheer fear)
I'm convinced that it's very dangerous to say that wanting to play in ways/with things associated with the opposite sex makes you trans.
I also think parents are being manipulated by the implied threat that if they don't go along with things their child will kill him/herself and it will be the mother's fault.
I recognise that transphobia exists and that pretty much ever trans person is vulnerable. But it affects girls too.
And lastly I agree that women's rights were recent and vulnerable.
How's that? Too much? Do I avoid talking about stuff like the plight of lesbians as I can't really speak to that? Do you stick to what you know?