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can we talk about my DDs take down of a sexist pig

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 09:33

She's 17 her sister is 19. Lots of talk via snapchat amongst some boys in her year that her sister is "stunning" and she is the "downgrade".

She got to hear about it and went right up to the wee shit who had called her the downgrade and said

"So I hear I'm the downgrade, huh?"

He blustered about just the fact that her sister is stunning and that he didn't mean she was the downgrade he just said it etc etc

So she says

"Tbh I think that says more about me than you. I mean, you can't even get the downgrade. What kind of a skank are you."

"What do you mean I can't even get the downgrade? Who says I can't get the downgrade?"

"I do. This downgrade says she wouldn't touch you if you were the last boy on earth. Consider yourself burned"

And walked away (apparently to yeowwwws of approval from his two friends)

I am cringing, but I'm also proud of her ballsiness.

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aaarrrggghhhh · 03/07/2018 09:35

Love. It.

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 09:36

It happened in school yesterday she was telling me last night and I was cringing as she was telling me but she was so empowered even in the recounting it was amazing to see. Not one shit does she give about his opinion (and kudos to the boy who is her mate who told her and had already asked them to stop it)

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 09:37

And I think it was "what kind of a skank does that make you" thinking about it.

She totally owned him.

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MistOnTheWater · 03/07/2018 09:41

Good on your DD. That's really quite funny.

SoddingUnicorns · 03/07/2018 09:48

Well fucking said your DD. Usually I get a bit funny with public humiliation but in this instance it was well called for and I hope he learns his lesson and changes his attitude.

rascallyrascal · 03/07/2018 09:50

Bloody brilliant!!!!

Badgerthebodger · 03/07/2018 09:50

Brilliant! You’ve done a great job raising a fab feminist firecracker there OP. Well done to your daughter!

VelociraptorRex · 03/07/2018 09:50

That is awesome, your DD rocks! Maybe he'll think twice in the future about being a twat.

bellinisurge · 03/07/2018 09:54

Nice take down.

LangCleg · 03/07/2018 09:55

All the LOLs! Good on her.

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 09:56

She's really quite a quiet child and it's a bit out of character but she was all it's not ok to make judgements about me like that and it's not ok that they said that and you know I might say I fancy x more than y but it's not ok to call me a downgrade that's rude.

I am pretty proud of her and how she handled it.

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MistOnTheWater · 03/07/2018 10:22

It's good that she has the confidence to be able to say this. Girls are so expected to be 'good' that it can get in the way of good comebacks. My DD said a couple of weeks ago that she was annoyed abut boys at school hassling the girls and the teachers not even noticing. I of course asked her if she was being hassled and she looked most astonished and said 'they wouldn't dare!'. DD is 11 and in yr6. it's ingrained in society, media, expectations etc.

Noqont · 03/07/2018 10:37

Good for her. Hope she's ok.

ErrolTheDragon · 03/07/2018 10:45

Hell hath no fury! Good for her. Don't cringe - she was bang to rights.

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 10:46

She is absolutely fine and thinks it was hilarious. And is very much of the "as if his opinion matters to me anyway" attitude.

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Noqont · 03/07/2018 10:55

Good. She's growing into a strong woman and feminist. Excellent.

BiologyIsReal · 03/07/2018 11:04

Well done. She sounds like a woman/girl from my generation of teenagers (50s/60s). That is precisely the sort of response any one of us would have made (except for skank as that word was not in use then). We would have used "shit"

It saddens me to see so many girls/woman today cowed by immature boys/men who aren't fit to lick their boots - or high heels.

OP you have restored my faith in the so-called snowflake generation.
to your DD

Dordognebound · 03/07/2018 11:13

I can't decide if I'd want my DD to confront the skank - which lets him and his fellow skanks know they've got her rattled - or ignore them with contempt. There's not a right or wrong, just pondering.

I was the older sister of an absolute stunner and thank god Snapchat wasn't around then!

ErrolTheDragon · 03/07/2018 11:15

It doesn't sound as though she was 'rattled' - more like, infused with an empowering sense of righteousness indignation.

HobNobcentral · 03/07/2018 11:17

Good woman!

Beamur · 03/07/2018 11:20

Excellent!

MinaPaws · 03/07/2018 11:21

8Dordogne* that's an interesting point, but I think at that age, it's good to call them out. Because they really are testing the ground on what they are and aren;t able to get away with in their attitude to women. And if she makes him uncomfortable, and shames him back, the way he attempted to shame her, he'll be more self-conscious next time round and think twice.

If she ignores him, he gets the message it's OK. No harm done.

BiologyIsReal · 03/07/2018 11:26

Call them out. Every. Single. Time.

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jumblefun · 03/07/2018 15:28

Oh she absolutely was not rattled in the slightest.

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