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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Lurker Delurking to seek support

38 replies

KaiserThiefs · 19/06/2018 10:04

Loong time reader of this board but I've never really posted because of all the other eloquent posters that say it all so much better than me.

I just wanted to let you know that what you're doing matters, it really matters to me and all the others like me and I also wanted a little hand hold because my son's school have sent home a letter about an upcoming residential trip where they've stated that:

'there will be no mixed genders in any room'

I've written to them [wibble] to get clarification if the accommodation will be sex segregated as this is a provision that's protected in the Equality Act.

I want you all to know that your voices give our actions strength and let us know that it's not bigotry to ask for adequate safeguarding.

It's not phobic to protect our children's dignity and it's okay to say no because it makes me feel uncomfortable.

There doesn't need to be a better reason, our rights are protected and it's not an act of hate to want to protect them.

(if they write back and challenge me though I know I'm going to apologise and run away, I have been socialised to the nth degree!)

OP posts:
MsBeee · 19/06/2018 11:06

Well done!! I too am socialised to to rock the boat. What a great thing you have done!!
Holding 🤚 🤚

AngryAttackKittens · 19/06/2018 11:32

Good job!

Theinconstantgardener · 19/06/2018 11:40

well done Kaiser

Norther · 19/06/2018 11:41

Well done KaiserThiefs and great story ElleToro. That is so hopeful. So glad I contributed to TransgenderTrend fundraiser. Will definitely include booklet with my letter. Going to check my bank to see if I can donate again!!

spontaneousgiventime · 19/06/2018 11:49

Well done OP and if they reply you are not going to crumble, you are Spartacus!

Come back and update us and we will help you with a reply to tie them in knots. Your child deserves sex segregated spaces and that's why you're doing this.

Proud of you!

spontaneousgiventime · 19/06/2018 11:51

Note to self: Read the full thread before relying.

Datun · 19/06/2018 12:06

Well done KaiserThiefs.

And this is how it starts. Most people are fully comprehending of the reason why we separate the sexes.

And the first rule is to understand that it means sex, not gender.

Once that is firmly inprinted in people's heads, the rest is easier to talk about and deconstruct.

Socialisation is a weird thing. Even talking about it (hello,again, to how words and language are vital for increased understanding) reduces the impact.

Because you find yourself doublechecking your reaction to more and more things.

"Have I said yes to that because I mean it, or because I'm worried it will displease someone if I say no?"

The answers can be eye-opening.

And for what it's worth, I think you have grasped the issues here perfectly. Welcome.

loveyouradvice · 19/06/2018 12:40

Kaiser congratulations! Really great....

Looking forward to hearing more from you now you have delurked!

PositivelyPERF · 19/06/2018 13:08

That’s fantastic KaiserThiefs. You have also given them something to think about. It’s probably a good time to send a thankyou note, for clarifying their meaning, along with a transgender trend pack.

speakingwoman · 19/06/2018 14:32

well done.

TimeLady · 19/06/2018 14:53

If we all start to ask politely for clarification whenever we see an opportunity like this one, we can en masse raise awareness and make a difference. It doesn't have to be confrontational as the OP has shown, but it will have made others stop and think. Well done.

BettyDuMonde · 19/06/2018 15:02

Well done!

You may as well stick around now.

StroppyWoman · 19/06/2018 17:14

As a recently "uncloaked" lurker myself, Good on you, KaiserThiefs!

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