I have mixed thoughts. I read it similarly to Branleuse.
The act of having a penis in your vagina is not, for most women, intrinsically violent.
The act of coercion (by whatever method) is the crime. That should be punished, proportional to the means used. I don’t think she’s said differently?
I think she is trying to separate the act of penetrative sex from the means by which that is achieved. Expecting females to suffer severe trauma is placing a value on sex/virginity that no female should be bound to. It also creates a massive pressure on the victim to demonstrate trauma in order to be supported in reporting.
Rape is a frequent crime. Obviously, far too frequent. She’s arguing, I think, that we should view it accordingly. If a wife knew that her husband wasn’t going to go to prison after a long and protracted trial where her knickers are paraded around court, she might be more tempted to report and the justice system might be more tempted to convict. The burden of proof is rape trials is unique, and for such a common crime, that needs to change. Recognition that it’s common, that women are very likely to be truthfully reporting because it’s common, is where I think she’s heading.
Just some jumbled thoughts.