Quite a lot of the time I feel like a tiger, an enormous dinosaur or a very small and hibernating doormouse, but the rest of the time I feel like a human person. I have a fairly flexible identity as far as species goes.
In some of my sexual fantasies I am male, and male-bodied.
But what I actually am, a human female, is dictated by my dna and that cannot be changed.
Happily it doesn't have to define me as I can and do reject a lot of the social and cultural expectations of womanhood in terms of clothing, presentation, following a STEM career and being assertive and contributing equally in business meetings (and no I won't sort out the coffee for everyone), and household responsibilities which are genuinely shared entirely equally.
I generally dislike my body, especially the inconveniently large boobs and the annoying way it bleeds painfully each month.
My lack of "identifying" as a woman hasn't made the slightest bit of difference to the various occasions that I have been subjected to verbal or physical sexual abuse. When an abusive man wants to be abusive it is his perception that decides what you are.
The extent to which I personally embraced womanhood was entirely irrelevant to the dozens of employers to whom I made job applications in my early 30s (happily I wasn't unemployed, just desperately unhappy with my current employment) and as I got to the final two candidates over and over again and then was told that it was really close but in the end they went for the other candidate (a man) every single bloody time. I have no doubt that at least some of these occasions were down to them seeing "woman" and thinking "childbearing age. Babies. Maternity leave". Women are not discriminated against due to their identity or presentation. Just their biology.
Each person can only experience and perceive their own experiences and perceptions by definition. Except in the case of mental illness, which obviously should be treated, any disjointedness between how you feel personally to be and what society and culture expect of your sex should be addressed by changing and challenging sexist societal and cultural expectations. You can't wish yourself into a different pigeonhole in the minds of other people. Work towards building a world without pigeonholes. It is hard and will take generations to achieve but it will be a lot more successful than fantasising that biology doesn't exist.