Dione id agree he didn't seem to sound like he saw women as equals. There were other comments elsewhere which retained that tone.
His comments about his ex partner were about more to do with the culture of how masculinity was viewed and being an aggressive male was viewed as attractive because of social conditioning.
I got the feeling it was that which shocked him, not so much looking down on his ex partner but the whole culture of which he had been part of which he couldn't comprehend once he tried to look at it from a woman's pov.
I think the article reads more like it was personal against her rather than a wider reflection that he made it out to be.
He minimised domestic violence and what he did, but at the same time made the point that even 'minor' aggression and controlling was totally unacceptable.
I think we are much more used to women making these arguments as victims rather than a man making these arguments as someone who had been guilty of these crimes. When we see the argument from this pov, we always want to be critical of them for doing something unacceptable. Because we see it from the victims pov. This woman didn't see herself as a victim and that's what is jarring and what the comment was about. Equally we don't often see a guilty man express remorse never mind that same revelation about a victim who has been so conditioned not just to see it as normal behaviour but preferred behaviour.
If things are going to change, you have to have men challenging their own and saying their roles they were taught are just wrong. I do think women can only say so much unfortunately. Because of that underlying view of women as not equals and not understanding male mentality and hierarchy of social structure.
Thats why I think the interview was of value. BZ did not have to volunteer information which people will look at and judge him for. He's not a hero for doing it either. Its just necessary if that makes sense.