A tiny victory...

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I’m a part time work at home parent. I do more of the housework and childcare because of this. I’m very happy with our balance (and happy to be quite proactive in straightening things out when they get a bit unbalanced!)

I had become ‘default parent’, even at the weekend, through no fault of anyone, just our set up.

I’m quite busy today, up in the office working away at tidying up the books. DH also busy in his study finishing off an assignment. DD is very capable of generally entertaining herself for reasonable periods of time - and very capable of asking when she needs help.

I can hear what’s going on in the house. And today Dd has finally decided it makes more sense to ask her dad for help, than to travel the extra flight of stairs to ask mum!

I feel a little sad for him being constantly distracted, but overwhelmingly I just feel very victorious that I am no longer default parent 24/7!!

(Could have helped her ten times over in the time it took to post this!)
(Back to work...)

Whoop!

Similarly, my 2 year old accepted for the first time this morning that daddy can also 'kiss better'. Victory!!

My partner recently took over night times with our 18 month year old as our baby seemed ready to be night weaned. I feel like a new woman (after a week of full nights sleep) our baby sleeps in much larger chunks and my partner gets to have the lovely cuddles with his son that I have had until now.
Everyone is happy and like you OP, I feel it's a small victory against the stereotypes about who can do what and how men can and should be a vital part of bringing up children.