I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but I was wondering this morning whether misgendering someone because you don't agree they are the gender they say they are can be seen to be on a par with say describing gay people as an abomination because of a religious belief?
Is that how it's seen?
For me personally, I am happy to be polite to someone if they want to be called whatever they want to be called and do my best to abide by it. It's not always easy - I have some people close to me who changed their names for example and I struggle not to let their former name slip out at times.
I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them feel as though I am deliberately trying to be nasty to them. However, I also feel very strongly about what I feel is gaslighting - to feel forced to say something that I don't think is true in a way that suggests I do believe it's true.
I'm worried about being forced to say things I don't truly believe. I want to know if it is cruel and degrading for me to say I don't believe in my heart that transwomen are women, even if I am prepared to go for a 'middle ground' - which is to use 'she' and the person's new name if that's what they want?
I just don't know where the line is - because I suppose the logical progression from being happy to respect a name, etc. even if I don't believe someone is, in fact, a woman, is to accept that person in all women's spaces, etc. even if I don't believe it?
I'm highly confused at this point.