DD thrown out of a women's ASD support group on fb.

[GrooovyLass]

Just need to rant - not sure if this is the right place.

DD is 18 and just starting to seek support for herself outside of the school/college environment. She joined a fb group a few weeks ago but got banned today because she said that her experience as a teenage girl with ASD would be completely different to that of a transwoman in the group.

That's it - she wasn't rude or anything, she just said that their experiences must, by definition, be different. I'm so fucking angry for her.

My DS has a pink 'dress' with cats on that he loves. He doesn't care that society says it's for girls because there is no logical reason for that.
If he were persuaded that his liking of the dress is a symptom of being transgender? Because that is basically what the transgender advocates do. Try to persuade children that their behavior is a symptom of gender identity disorder.

If he were persuaded that his liking of the dress is a symptom of being transgender? Because that is basically what the transgender advocates do. Try to persuade children that their behavior is a symptom of gender identity disorder.

He also has long hair because he likes how it feels when he flicks it around. It terrifies me that someone will try to convince him that it's because there's something wrong with him. I can only hope that his current way of thinking continues. We can't use nicknames for him because he gets upset as they don't make sense. He insists he's a boy not a baby/sausage/pickle/monkey etc.

tands to sense that a lot of trans people are autistic. Gender is a social construct. All autistic people have trouble picking up on social cues. I am inclined to think autism is the primary cause of transgenderism. I don't think trans people are being unrealistic when they self identify as autistic, for the record

/sigh/ wrong in almost ever sentence. Verging on #autsplaining

Perhaps your DD could post on the SN boards here for support. There is a Mumsnetters with SN topic.

[Flowers] for your D'S.

Sorry that should be, for your DD.

pleasedontgoadthetoad good idea yes the “mumsnetters with SN”
talk section could be a great alternative for seeking out some support

I think I used to be in that group. I left due to the constant drama, fallouts and cliqueiness.
Your dd may be upset, but IMO she's had a lucky escape!

There are other groups, and if she follows a few bigger ones you tend to find smaller ones with more likeminded people in.

Was it “Autistic Women (aspergers, asd + similar)”?

What people need to realise is that TIMs get into moderator positions and then abuse their power - for example reddit has only 2 or 3 safe subs for women out of millions - because they are moderated by women. The rest are moderated by women hating MRAs and /or TIMs .

Maybe help DD to set up her own group and you and her moderate it until she gets others in the FB group - that's the way to go

I was once throw out of an epilepsy group as I stuck up for a new member who's child had recently been diagnosed. She used the term epileptic which is a big no no in this group as you can have epilepsy but not be epileptic.
The admins totally went in in her and I was upset that this poor mum desperate for support was publically berated in a thread.
I got checked out ....some admins on FB pages are total control freaks !!!
I hope your DD gets the support she needs.

While I think that some autistic people could get very easily swept up by trans ideologues and some may also be vulnerable to dysphoria I think there is also an issue where some individuals are self identifying into every group that they consider either oppressed or having special privileges (or both) and then demanding to be centred. Plus all the brocialists and SJWs busy being very busy getting offended on others behalves too and enjoying their policing power. With that in mind I'm not even surprised this has happened. Your poor dd OP, how shit for her to reach out for support and understanding and get so slapped down.

Sorry Dd had such a crap experience.

I’m in ‘Autistic Women in the UK’ on Facebook. Have expressed (mild) gender critical views there and not been banned yet.

I don't know what one it was - she won't tell me because I think she thinks I'd join and then have a go at them!