Mam - love your last post, many insightful points, and as someone who has also had their arse handed to them on a plate, you have really made me chuckle ;)
The points you have made about brainwashing I really find interesting- I don’t see many students, but when I do speak to younger woman on sexism / feminism it’s so disappointing to me that they will start statements with “I’m not a feminist but...” why is there a feeling of not want to identify with what should be such a positive concept? Why don’t they feel it’s for them? I think on some occasions it’s because of the type of responses on here.
I’m also sure some of it is also is what you describe above about a male centre approach, and a bubble away from some more robust views. What I would love to see is feminist debate encouraging young people to engage and explore feminism, based on the issues they find interesting and important, without men or woman ‘telling’ them how to do feminism, (however sure we are of our own views). The issues that are important to them will likely change over time - returning to work after mat leave and career barriers post parenthood, has never been more relevant to me, but it wasn’t my main talking point when I was 19. Young people exploring any of this is a great opportunity to share some of the really relevant and important points you have raised, I just think we need to do it in a way that doesn’t alienate or disengage.
The trans debate is massive, and all feminists should be allowed to shape their own views on it, without their chosen response resulting in them being ‘banished’ from feminism. Those who seek to obscure the barriers woman face in society would love nothing more than in-fighting about trans removing the focus from the wider debate, and that would really piss me off 😉😀