Modelling gender equality in the family

[FrannyAndZooeyGlass]

I am a feminist. As is my DH.

I work full time, he is at home with the DC. He does the shopping, the laundry, the cleaning, the cooking. I earn money.

But tonight we arrived at a chalet in the French Alps for a week of skiing and as we drove in to the car park, we drove over a nail and the tyre started losing air.

And on automatic pilot, I started wrangling the kids inside, unpacking suitcases and making beds. He stayed outside to sort out the tyre.

Made me think that we conform to traditional gender roles despite thinking that we don't!

Can anyone in a heterosexual couple - hand on heart - say in this situation they would have assumed their DH would make the beds whilst they sorted the flat tyre?

Just interested.

We would have started off the other way round. Because I have infinitely more patience than DH with fiddly tasks we don’t often do so are a bit crap at. The only time we’ve needed to change a tyre I did it. But in your situation I’d have got too cold after a while and engineered a swap .

I do, however, seem to do all the fucking laundry. As do the two highly educated and outspokenly feminist women, both with self-proclaimed feminist partners, that I had lunch with today. And none of us know how we’ve somehow become the keepers of our other halfs’ underwear.